Third Pregnancy at 42

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Hi, I’ve just found out I am pregnant (very early on) with my third baby. Totally unplanned, my husband actually had a vasectomy last week as we decided after the birth of our DD we didn’t want anymore. My other children are 10 and 3, we’re just in the process of buying our first house and our life is pretty settled. I’m really scared and torn about this pregnancy. I’m worried we won’t financially be able to afford another baby, I’m scared about complications (I had gestational diabetes with my previous two pregnancies), but at the same time I don’t think a termination is something I could do. I am honestly in real shock. I don’t even know what I’m asking I’m just so scared and confused and worried.

Have you told your husband yet if not you need to talk about it.
Youre 42 with a 10 & 3 year old sounds like life as just settled in the right way for you has a family.
Lots to think about and talk about aswell cost time energy child care etc.
You are going to be parenting way in to youre 50 early 60s do you want any freedom back.

I dont have any real advice but if it was me i know full well what i would do.

I can relate, I’m 41 and just found out too(although still waiting for a stronger line on test). We have a 6 years old(also had diabetes with his pregnancy) and we decided not to have more, but it happened and I believe God is in control of everything. If it happened, we’re going to be just fine 🙏🏻 sending lots of love and I hope time will take care of every worry 🙌🏻

God is not in control of everything you are in control of your life and the life of your children.
i understand this is youre belief but i have to disagree.

I am 42 and my children are late teens and 20. It’s pretty much against all odds I’m pregnant so I’m taking it as a massive blessing. Parenting well into my 60s doesn’t bother me at all. As a parent to an adult you never stop parenting or worrying anyway. 10 and 3 is still very young anyway so it’s not a massive gap. Hope you can find some positivity and happiness in whatever decision you make.

This is a big shock.
It will take some time to get your head around.
i understand your feelings on termination, i feel the same way.
Don’t feel you have to make any decisions now.
on the plus is a 3 year old age gab from your youngest is not big at all.

Age gaps, my age etc didn't bother me had our last in my 40s my mum had my youngest bro 14 year age gap at 43 who I adore and is actually my best friend out of all my siblings. We didn't expect twins at last one either but hey we made finances work and adore them all

45 here and 6 weeks into it, with a 25, 18 and an 8 year old! Massive shock and still adjusting. It's tough but only you know what's right for you.

I have personally coped with the last two weeks by making super concrete plans for my care: booked all the tests and consultant appointments for the first trimester, and have a very clear idea of what do to depending on various scenarios. That's my way to be 'in control'. I also had a MC in my early 40s and am as emotionally prepared for that outcome as can be- although I was hit very hard last time and don't think it would be any easier now... Irony was: DH and I were indeed planning for vasectomy or tubal ligation. We hadn't decided who was going to do it and nature went for a little 'hurrah'! My early scan also showed that I had ovulated from both ovaries! Too early to show anything btw, only one sac to be seen, but I guess we'll know for sure next time.