Coping with feeling like you’ve lost yourself during pregnancy

[toastedteddy]

I’m 26, and 28 weeks pregnant with twins. My husband and I have a 4 year old daughter, and my husband is amazing. He’s changed his work schedule around to do the nursery run, he does dinner, bath time, bedtime, because I’m just exhausted after work. I get in, eat dinner and cuddle with our little girl and I’m ready for bed.

But I feel like I’ve lost so much of my identity lately. I’m a very hands on mum, but that’s been curtailed because of my pregnancy. Add into it all the aches and pains and everything else, and I just feel like I’m a completely different person. I know when the babies are here I’ll feel like myself again, but I’m just feeling so down about myself at the moment. How did you cope?

This sounds a bit like the feeling you get when you have a newborn as well. Just remember that it will pass. You are currently growing two humans which is pretty bloody remarkable so no wonder you are exhausted. Accept it and rest as much as you can, you'll find yourself again. Lots of women with twin pregnancies stop working earlier than with single babies becuase it's pretty taxing for your body.

Yeah it does remind me of the newborn trenches last time round, but with a massive belly! I just feel a bit lost

I’m 38 and 30 weeks pregnant with my third. I feel completely lost too. Devoid of personality and energy. I’m currently on an extended family holiday and mostly sleeping through it. My DH is also very supportive but I’m constantly guilty about how crappy my parenting is right now. I envisioned a fun summer of activities with my kids but I’m too exhausted for most of my plans. Can’t be arsed with any of my hobbies. It’s just a miserable countdown til baby comes. No advice for you I’m afraid!

The guilt is killing me! I had a couple days of holiday booked through the summer to spend time with my daughter but the last one, I spent asleep! I feel awful.