Should I hide my bump at friend’s wedding?

[Stardust127]

Hi

DH and I are going to a wedding at the end of August (his friend from high school). I’m currently 9 weeks pregnant and I kid you not I am already showing (most of it is hormonal bloat at this stage though) but there’s absolutely no hiding it with my regular clothing. I’ll be 12 weeks at the wedding. A lot of friends are going to be there, we haven’t announced pregnancy yet.

The dress I have bought for the wedding is figure hugging. It would still fit, but it would be very obvious that I’m pregnant if I wear it.

Basically my question is, would it be ‘rude’ for people to notice and find out about baby at the wedding? should I buy a new dress that hides my bump? I don’t know if there’s an etiquette here and if so what it is.

thanks for reading! Please please no nasty comments 😐 I’m not being ignorant - It’s just something I don’t know about which is why I’m asking x

I probably wouldn’t wear an overly bodycon outfit to avoid constant questioning, something slightly less fitted and I doubt anyone would ask if you were pregnant.

Save your exciting news for another day.

And congratulations!

Personally I would try to hide it, I think its generally poor form to "announce" a pregnancy at someone else's wedding. (Unless you will have had your scan by then in which case I would share the details first so the congratulations can be out of the way before the wedding )

I think I would probably let your close friends know beforehand :).

I see where you're coming from. You'll probably get very varied opinions on this, there's probably no right or wrong as such. I know from sharing pregnancy news you can get such wonderful reactions from your nearest and dearest, people are generally very happy and excited for you if you're close to them. And might make a big deal of you. I don't personally think I'd like to bring that kind of attention on myself at someone else's wedding. Id save it for a separate time to tell people if it were me. Congratulations!

Possibly won’t be as visible a in a few weeks if it’s more bloating than bump.

I wouldn’t go out of my way to hide it (and sometimes I think a “hidden” bump is actually a bit more obvious depending on the dress chosen to hide it) but then I wouldn’t care if you turned up at my wedding in the figure hugging one. As long as you’re not grabbing the microphone and doing a special speech to announce your pregnancy I think it’s fine.

If you’re worried though, just tell the people who will care beforehand, if you’ve had the scan. So they can get their congratulations out of the way.

I would buy a new dress that hides the bump.

Some eagle eyed person is bound to spot that you’re not drinking anyway, but wearing a figure hugging dress with a bump as well as not drinking - some might call it deliberate attention seeking.

Thank you all so much for your replies , @HenDoNot this is exactly what I was worried about but couldn’t put words to what I was thinking / feeling 😅

i think I’m going to buy a new, flowy style dress so at least that way if people do notice then it’s not me making a big thing of it.

our dating scan isn’t until a few days after the wedding. So we’re thinking of getting a private scan a week or so before the wedding to make sure baby is okay in case it is noticed. (we’ve had previous miscarriages so we’re very anxious about this pregnancy - all seems well so far)

x

Every single guest at my husband’s 0 birthday caught on when I didn’t drink. I was 4 weeks at the time. Bless them, they all waited another 8 weeks to go crazy.

I'm very paranoid (or reasonable?) with pregnancy announcements as I always think others might have issues conceiving, could've just had a miscarriage etc.

I wouldn't want to announce a pregnancy on anyone's wedding. What if the bride has fertility issues? What if she had a recent miscarriage? I don't think she should need to deal with any pregnancy news on the wedding day.

I'd get a baggy dress for sure.

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

If you aren’t telling people now, then wear something that hides it and hold a champagne flute that you pass to your husband for him to drink. It’s poor form to announce at someone’s wedding.