First trimester advice

[Amby99]

Tbh - I’m already 9 weeks so I suppose I only have 3 more weeks of this discomfort but I wanted to share my experience and see if anyone else felt the same.

having usual nausea, tiredness, hunger etc etc.

I’m also just in a really foul mood with my partner 90% of the time. I’m not nasty but I can’t bear to touch him because I can smell our laundry powder and I don’t know how to describe it but I just can’t get ‘cute’ and sweet like how I did 9 weeks ago and it’s worrying me because if it’s like this now , I’m in for a shock when the baby comes right!

im hoping it’s just because I feel so unwell. He’s being so supportive, and if I wasn’t feeling so rough this would be the best time to be so intimate and cuddly after we know we are having a baby. And I’m getting a bit annnoyed with myself and apologetic to him because I feel distressed that I’m not like how I was before I was pregnant. I just seem so different. He doesn’t seem phased by it at all, and knows I’m going through a lot which makes me feel even worse!! Because I used to love more than anything attention from him, and now I can hardly stand being so close to him in the bed because it makes me feel hot and uncomfortable

It doesn’t bother him but it bothers me to some extent and I’m not sure if it’s in my brain (am I going through antenatal depression) or is it my hormones?

has anyone else experienced this? Does it get better in the pregnancy? I just don’t feel as bouncy and excited around him. I love him so so so so much and I just don’t feel like myself :(

Asides from this, I’m really happy to be having a baby but as I say, I just don’t feel like my usual self.

adding to this - I would actually describe it more of an ‘aversion’ to him… I feel so guilty. I don’t have any cravings for anyone else (LOL) and I feel so guilty because I love him so much and I used to be the most afffectionate and I’d jump for joy when he came home. Now it’s no excitement and I’m worried it’s never coming back

First of all , congrats!

Although annoying, what you’re going through is really REALLY normal. I can also relate, I had an aversion to my husband when pregnant. I didn’t want him to touch me, I repeatedly told him he smelt like food or laundry detergent and it took a few weeks to get over that.

That’s very reassuring to know, thank you. The detergent is so bad right? I can’t get away from it… I can’t stand sleeping in my own bed because it’s on the duvet :(

Yes it’s the worst. I knew I was pregnant because I could smell our washing detergent when I parked on the driveway. Took a test, positive!

Totally normal. The first trimester is by far the hardest with feeling so sick, the fatigue and your hormones all over the place - but it does get better (2nd is bliss, 3rd is survivable). It will change back and you'll feel less averse to your husband.

I'm 10+2 and the nausea is horrendous.. from waking to going to sleep. I do not remember it being this bad with my first! Definitely don't want DH anywhere near me, can't stand anything strong smelling, and am exhausted! Ready for a nap every lunch time! It's all normal I would say!

The smell of everyone and everything pissed me off. If my DH was facing me to sleep I use to make him roll over as the smell of this breath made me feel sick 😂😂

My DH did not touch me from weeks 6-13. And I mean not a hug or a kiss or even a pat on the shoulder 😂 his hands were just sooo warm it made me feel sick. I think as long as you still have affection through words and actions you'll be okay. 14 weeks now and can manage a hug and a peck on the cheek 😂

I'm exactly the same although my partner is getting impatient with me over it 😔 He just doesn't understand that it isn't personal as such, I'm just so averse to his 'smell' right now 😭 I hate hugs/affection right now. And I'm exactly the same with the bed sheets, I hate going to bed every night because it makes me feel soooo sick 🤢

In my first tri I used to get so upset if my DH rolled over and faced me in his sleep because I couldn't stand the smell of his breath. I also hated being in our kitchen because it smelled like his breath AND food. His cologne made me gag too. I think it's biology, we're angry at them for getting us in this 'state'. Thankfully he took it all so well 😂 now it's all changed in the second tri, I'm just angry at everyone else but he's the apple of my eye again.