Feeling left out now I'm pregnant.

[kayzisexpecting]

I feel a bit left out of going out to the pub with my friends now I am pregnant again.

Before I got pregnant they would invite me and DH to the pub despite us having to ask my mum to have DS overnight for us. But now I'm pregnant they just say "Shame you cant come" or "Shame you couldn't come out X night, we had a great time"

The other day a really close friend said this to me and I got a bit upset and said "Well if you actually bothered to invite us maybe we'd be able to come" I have said sorry since and blamed it on hormones.

I never really drank any alcohol since having DS anyway, normally a glass of wine or an alcopop thing and then J2O's, so its not like it's because I can't drink.

Should I just shut up and forget it?

I am being a bit silly aren't I really.

Does anyone else feel like this?

i still thikn they should give you the option of saying yes or no yourself.

Thats what both DH and I think too. At least then if I don't feel up to it I can say so.

you should say that to your friends..

it is a bit mean to say we had a great night out but we didn;t ask you !!

jsut say you want to be asked, and treated like a normal person, not an invalid

God that's a bit off isn't it? I am not surprised you are feeling a bit left out.

You shoudl have a word with them, it's obviously upset you and i think you would still feel upset even if your hormones weren't 'pregnant'

I am going to mention it to one of my friends. He seems to do most of planning anyway so at least he'll know then.

Could you organise a night out to the pub yourselves and invite all your friends? Then they would realise that you haven't become a recluse just because you're pregnant. It does seem very strange, but if they don't have children themselves, maybe they have strange ideas about it.

Yeah we're the only one with children except 1 but his ex moved back to Australia while pregnant so he can still come out with no problems.

I think I will organise a night out soon.