I’m 34 and currently 7 months pregnant. I’ve reached a really difficult point emotionally and I need to share what’s happened, partly to get it off my chest, partly to hear from others who’ve maybe been through similar.
Ive known the father of my baby for many years and we met up earlier this year. Things moved quite quickly, he said he was happy when I told him I was pregnant, even though it was unplanned. I made it clear from the start that I was open to discussing all options, but he said he wanted to be involved and made a lot of promises about being supportive. He even came to scans, talked about the future, and seemed genuinely interested in co-parenting.
Then, around 7 weeks ago, he went quiet. At first, I thought he just needed space, so I gave him some. But when he finally messaged, he told me he’d been “seeing someone else.” This came completely out of the blue for me, no communication, no explanation, just silence followed by that. I was heartbroken and confused.
I tried to be calm and express how I felt, but he’s barely responded since. He said we’d talk on the phone, first he suggested yesterday, then said today would be better, but nothing. I’ve called, I’ve messaged, but he hasn’t even read what I wrote. It feels like I’m being completely ignored. I’m now wondering if he’s blocked me, changed his number, or is just pretending I don’t exist.
The emotional toll is huge. I’ve tried to keep things respectful and ask necessary questions.
No answers. He lives abroad, so it’s not even straightforward when it comes to child maintenance. I’m feeling emotionally exhausted, humiliated, and incredibly alone.
The hardest part is accepting that someone who said they wanted this could just disappear when things got real.
If anyone’s been through something similar, or has any advice on how to cope, or on international child maintenance, I’d be so grateful. Right now I just feel like I’m grieving someone who’s still alive but refusing to show up for his child or me.
Thanks for reading 💔