12 weeks pregnant, super nauseous and struggling to parent

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I am struggling today. I’ve had bad nausea/vomiting in all my previous pregnancies but this time around the nausea is really getting to me.

I’ve got three kids under five and I work part time. DH works long hours and has a long commute. If I’m not at work they’re at home with me all the time.

I’m really struggling to do anything with them right now as I just feel so tired and sick. Today they’ve mostly just watched tv in between arguing with each other. I’m too exhausted to even care much.

Please reassure me I’m not alone. I feel guilty and like a rubbish mum at the moment. I know my previous pregnancies were similar and I felt awful about the impact on my older kids then too during bits where I struggled. Feel like I’m currently operating at about 1/3rd my normal capacity.

I just need somewhere to say this as haven’t told many people about my current pregnancy.

I'm sorry you're having such rubbish sickness, if it doesn't subside then maybe consider medication? You have a lot on your plate! I wouldn't worry about the kids they will be happy in their own little worlds, you're doing a great job - pregnancy is so hard and that's without working and parenting 3 little ones!

You are doing your absolute best! I’ve suffered from Hyperemeis so you might want to check with your GP if you have the same? Also, don’t feel guilty - the fact that you do shows how much you care for your kids and trust me they are resilient and will get through. I know when I was pregnant and struggling, I ordered some new puzzles, colouring books, chalkboards, crayon bundles , play dough to keep them entertained while I collapsed on the sofa. Also if you have a garden and now the weather is getting better get them some bubble wands, gardening tools and let them dig up the garden. Worst comes to worse, unlimited screen time is a lifesaver on really horrible days! You’ll get through this OP, good luck! X

I had hyperemesis in my pregnancy and I was sooo unwell from about 6 weeks until I was finally put on anti-sickness medication at 20 weeks. The medication helped me so much and I was finally able to enjoy my pregnancy from then on. Maybe speak to your GP and see if you are the same? I really feel for you, pregnancy sickness is awful. It has made me scared to have another baby as I don't how I will parent my first if I am as sick second time around. I remember having carrier bags shoved in the car door, down the side of the couch, in my handbag etc in case I urgently and unexpectedly needed to be sick. Its so tough, I hope you feel better soon OP 💕

Ring your midwife or GP and ask for Xonvea. Absolutely saved my life. Its made specifically for pregnant women, it's safe, ita basically just vitamins but it works unbelievably. I took it for the whole of my pregnancy. And you're doing a good job 🫶 my toddler lived with the TV before I got these meds. Mam guilt is the worst. Get the meds! X