Pregnancy after still birth

[TBose]

Last year, during the later stages of my pregnancy, we found out that our baby had severe micrognathia. Sadly, we had to make the incredibly difficult decision to end the pregnancy, and she was born still. It was an emotionally devastating time, and the past year has been incredibly hard.

Now, a year later, I’ve just found out that I’m pregnant again. While I’m grateful, I’m also feeling very anxious and overwhelmed. I was just wondering if anyone has a positive story to share—something similar to my experience that ended in a healthy pregnancy and birth. Hearing those stories would really mean a lot right now.

TIA

A colleague went through this. I'm not sure of the medical details but she found out very late that there was something wrong with her baby and she had to go through a stillbirth.

It's now a couple of years later and she is on maternity leave and is enjoying her time at home with her beautiful baby girl.

I'm sorry for your loss OP, but congratulations on your pregnancy.

Not quite the same, but I had a loss at 5 months (born still), followed by an ectopic that ruptured and then a further miscarriage which took 2 d&cs.
Anyway, in late 2021 I had my daughter (early at 24 weeks) and my son earlier this year.

I hate to say it, but having gone through what you've been through you'll find the rose tinted spectacles re how wonderful pregnancy is are definitely broken. I didn't relax until babies were safe and breathing in my arms.

Our twins were stillborn in April 2023. It was soul destroying. DD1 was born healthy July 2024 and DD2 was born three weeks ago healthy in June 2025. Zero issues with either. Just healthy, happy babies, uncomplicated pregnancies. Sorry you’ve suffered through this, too.

Im so, so sorry for the loss of your baby girl. I have a similar journey to you, my eldest daughter was in her infancy when she passed away - it’s devastated me.

I’ve been fortunate enough to have had more children since, (one of them is asleep in my arms right now!) and pregnancy went okay with them. We had frequent scans to make sure babies were doing okay.

A gentle congratulations to you for your pregnancy. Totally understandable that you’re feeling the way you are. Can I ask when you might be due? In my pregnancies, I felt just like you. Do you have any support around you to vent if you need?

Thanks so much to everyone who replied. I’m really sorry for the losses you’ve been through, it means a lot that you shared your stories with me.

Reading your experiences has honestly helped more than I expected. It’s reassuring to know I’m not alone in feeling anxious after loss, and hearing about your healthy pregnancies gives me a bit of hope to hold on to.

@mommabooI don’t have any professional support at the moment, but I do sometimes vent to my sister which helps a bit.

I’ve been having brown spotting on and off since around 4 and a half weeks, three times in the last week and a half. It’s making me feel so anxious, but I keep telling myself not to stress and that hopefully everything is okay.

Really appreciate all the support, thank you again. Wishing you all the best with your little ones. ❤️

I had a friend that went through this, her son was stillborn at 39 weeks.
It was heartbreaking to watch from the outside so I can’t imagine either of your pain.
She had a healthy baby girl within 18 months and has since had another healthy baby girl recently.
Good luck to you OP 🌈 x

I’m so sorry to hear this. My mother’s first baby was stillborn at six months. I was born a year later and my sister four years after me, both healthy.

Thank you for sharing your friend’s story 🤍

Thank you @girljulian

Have a look at willow's rainbow box, it's for support in exactly this situation.

my little girl was stillborn in 2022 due to getting tangled in her cord. I then had a little girl in October 2023 and I’m now 28 weeks pregnant with another little girl.

pregnancy after loss is so hard, you will not relax and every little pain, cramp, or “off” feeling will send you into a spiral of worry. You won’t rest until your baby is here safely. Both my subsequent pregnancies have been so difficult but it’s all worth it. Even though I had a healthy little girl in 2023 I’m still absolutely terrified that something will happen during this pregnancy. My family and consultant are so supportive and are what’s getting me through it.

just take the pregnancy easy, focus on yourself and don’t worry about being selfish. Do what you need to do to get your baby here safely. Pester the hospital, ask them loads of questions, attend epau/triage whenever you feel you need to and be honest with the midwives/consultants as it will help you so much!

sending you so much love and wishing you a healthy and smooth pregnancy🩷

@TBose congratulations on your pregnancy.

no story to tell, however we suffered a stillbirth at 35 weeks in January and I am now 7 weeks pregnant. My inbox is open if you want someone to talk to about it all.
I am finding I am very anxious about this pregnancy but just taking it all one day at a time x

I had a TMFR at 16 weeks withmy first, the hardest thing I've ever gone through, and went through labour to deliver him, stillborn. Two years later I was lucky enough to have a perfectly healthy baby but as a PP said, the rose tinted pregnancy specs were off and each scan filled me with absolute terror at what might show up. Nothing did. But I only truly relaxed and fully believed I would leave hospital with a living baby, once he was safely in my arms. Now firmly believe I'm a better Mum for it, as I take no moment for granted. Big hugs

I am being too unlucky. Unfortunately again I had missed miscarriage! I am so sad and scared to try one more time now.

Oh I'm so sorry to hear this.

I'm so sorry. I hope you have some support. Did you have a bereavement midwife for your daughter who can support you now?

We lost our twin baby boys this Boxing Day just gone. Two perfect, little baby boys who we love so much 💙💙 I was 22 weeks.

It is comforting to know you had successfully pregnancies after. How long did it take you to conceive after your loss? Xx

In 2013 My first baby died 2 hours after he was born at 24 weeks, we were advised to have TFMR when they found out the problem at 20 weeks.

I had 3 miscarriages after him.

In 2015 I gave birth to a healthy little girl, she's almost 11 now! I had 2 more miscarriages after her and then had a healthy DS

We had genetic testing done and neither parent carried anything that caused DS's issues, the consultant said it was just as a simple as two cells didn't form properly as they should at the very beginning

I was heavily monitored when pregnant with DD and had NHS scans every 2 weeks, which made it easier for me as I was so anxious

We lost our perfect twins on boxing day in 2018 at 23 weeks. It wasn't a smooth journey from there. We had a missed miscarriage and then I struggled to get pregnant. However, now I have the world's most perfect 2 and 4 year olds who bring me so much joy. You have been through hell, but hopefully in a few years you will be here telling others how happy you are, even if it doesn't seem like it now.

I had stillbirth at 33 weeks due to blood clot to my placenta, my gorgeous little lylarose will forever be in my heart, I found it was pregnant 5 months later with my gorgeous boy grayson, I couldn't really enjoy my pregnancy for worry, I did get more scans due to what happened b4, but still never calmed me much, at 37 weeks I was induced and gave birth to my grayson who is now 5 months and thriving, never give up