On holiday with my parents - hiding pregnancy

[TheWiseTealTurtle]

So I am on holiday with my parents and I don't feel ready to tell them I am expecting yet. I am away with them for 2 weeks and already a few days into it they offered me a drink and I said I didn't feel like it which I think they thought was odd as it's unlike me! They are excited about us making drinks using their new cocktail bar and I don't know how I am going to hide this. To make matters worse I think morning sickness is starting to hit. What do I do?!

This,

I was in the same position 21 years ago. I don't drink much, anyway and my family aren't big drinkers. I managed to keep it secret (it was very early, and I had previously miscarried). When I finally told everyone at 12 weeks and after the holiday, my sister in law had said she had sort of guessed.

If it's going to become too difficult, I would just tell them. They are your family, they love you and will probably figure it out, anyway.

Enjoy your holiday.

You have to ask yourself, if the worst happened and you lost this baby would you tell them?

Because if the answer is yes you’re hiding it from them for no reason.

Congratulations!

Honestly puppy and baby is not for the feint of heart...

Just tell them.
You are not dependent on them, this is your life.
Personally, I didn't go on holidays with my parents when I was 24, but everyone to their own.
Put yourself first.

When morning sickness kicked in with me, just smells and not just of food, used to set me off. I just had to open the fridge or even our front door and I would be off. Car sickness ramped up. So there would have been no way I could have hidden it when on holiday with anyone

Have you got a plan on how you will cope with young dog and baby, what are you doing about new job (shouldn’t be discriminated against whilst pregnant but it happens), financially how are you going to cope? If you have answers to these question will be much easier to talk to your parents

Are you the same poster whose in laws are getting you the puppy? 🐶

Congratulations!
Is it too late to rethink the puppy?

Just tell then. It doesn't make any difference if you tell them now or later. If you lie they'll know when you do tell them it was a lie.

I went on a girls trip when 6 weeks with DD (poor timing but had been ttc for ages) and I told my friends actually before my parents as didn't want to lie about not drinking all week!

We also got a dog at the same time as I got pregnant with DS and it was hard but worked out fine in the end. We used a very good breeder so the dog was very well socialised around babies. So think a lot about it.

@TheWiseTealTurtleJust tell them. What sort of a relationship do you have that you have to conceal this ? I assume you are an adult and I know it is your body so they either support you or they can mind their own business

Tell them. Honestly-it’s the only way to avoid having a miserable time.

I’d just tell them too. To be honest, if you usually enjoy a drink and you’re suddenly going two weeks without one on holiday, they’re going to guess anyway! Speak to your partner first and tell him it’s just too awkward not to tell them.

It might be wise to cancel the puppy.

Morning sickness is going to get worse and the smell of the inevitable piss and shit could be very difficult.

Don't underestimate the time and work needed to care for and train a puppy - this doesn't sound like the best time. And no doubt it will all fall to you as the one not currently working.

I'd honestly say tell them. And call your OH first.

They are likely to guess and could well ask you directly.

Getting a dog at this time is a bad decision: expensive at a time of financial strain, demanding, adds work once DC arrives and will probably limit your work opportunities.

I've got adult DDs ... and I'd definitely ask questions if I suspected 😁

I always think - if anything, god forbid, went wrong, I’d always want those closest to me to know to support. So, either way, I’d always tell my parents however long it’s been. However I do recognise all relationship with parents are different

If it were me I would probably tell my mum first and explain that I didnt want to make it a big thing as only two weeks in and also still feeling very unsettled due to redundancy. As a mother would understand more about the two weeks being so early.
We would then discuss telling my dad too and probably also tell him in a low key way
Rather than a big announcement to them both at the same time it would make it more low key

I get you want your partner there …
Maybe don’t get the puppy ? , I say that not cause your parents don’t think it’s a good idea , but because, still be a puppy when baby comes & they’re such a handful ! ..
You’ll get a new job , things always have a way of working themselves out , you’ll see ☺️..
I suppose see how you go with your parents, if you have to tell them , you have to tell them 🤷🏻‍♀️..
Don’t be stressing, you sound stressed , everything will be ok , I hope the morning sickness subsides , it’s draining x x

Congratulations OP

Don’t get the dog!

I'd just tell them - if you're not drinking and having morning sickness they'll likely guess anyway so might as well tell them! Frame it as it was unplanned but we're very happy and deflect any questions about how you will manage with 'It's still very early days, we'll work it out so don't worry'

Think carefully about getting a puppy though - it's a LOT of work and if you have a complicated pregnancy or suffer bad morning sickness (it's not just mornings and can be relentless all day sickness - mine was at it's worst in the evening) you will find it hard to devote the time and effort it requires.

Say you are 'thinking' of getting pregnant in the near future so not drinking to get your body in peak condition. (I agree re the puppy though)

I guessed with both DILs it showed in their faces.

Say you have a bladder infection and alcohol is aggravating it

Congratulations!

It's easier to tell them (you can always Facetime your partner whilst you do it so he's included)

And I'm afraid you'll have to suck up puppy comments as, to be fair, they have a point

!00%, plenty of time for a puppy later on.