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Pregnancy After Loss - Anxiety

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IsThisMyRainbow · 10/07/2025 14:39

Iv had 4 previous losses. 2 of which was MMC at 6 & 7 weeks. I found out I was pregnant a month ago and I’m currently 7w 6d.

I have had 3 scans. All positive so far. No concerns. But I just cannot help but always thinking there is something wrong. I had my last scan two days ago and I’m already thinking Iv lost it.

I felt really crappy in week 5/6 but the last few days or so I feel a lot better. My boobs aren’t as sore. Don’t feel as tight down below. Not having any nausea. I think this is adding to my anxiety thinking something is wrong.

Any words of wisdom or suggestions how to deal with the constant worry? Thanks for listening x

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TartanCulshie · 10/07/2025 14:46

It's awful isn't it?
I was the same, once the symptoms dipped at 7 weeks ish I convinced myself it was another mmc. Had a scan and it wasn't!!! Yippee

It took me until I could feel kicks until I could really relax.
Best of luck. And try and enjoy any bits you can (although appreciate that's maybe not an option)

InvisibleDragon · 10/07/2025 15:37

It's really tough isn't it. I'm 30 weeks now after a MMC discovered at 10 weeks (baby stopped developing at 6 weeks) and a simple MC at somewhere between 5 and 6 weeks.

Unfortunately, the anxiety never goes away totally, but it does get easier to manage.

One thing I found helpful was to write a list of my anxieties and fears, so that each time I had a scan and baby was fine, I could use it for myself as evidence that my worries were not reality.

So, I had a list of things like:

  • saw a single magpie, which is bad luck
  • ate three servings of tuna, so too much mercury
  • not feeling as nauseous, so HCG might be dropping

Then I would see at the scan that the baby was developing on track, so none of those things had actually meant anything was wrong. With time, that helped me let go of worries more easily, because I had evidence that all my earlier fears had not been true.

It gets a bit easier once you can feel regular movements, because the time to disconfirming a fear gets much shorter (baby is still moving vs waiting a week or so for a scan).

Rosesanddaffs · 10/07/2025 15:42

I’m sorry for your losses, it’s hard, I felt like this during my pregnancy and previously having had a mmc I could only think of the worst.

If I’m honest I secretly worried throughout the whole pregnancy but I tried to take each day as it came.

Sending you lots of positive vibes xx

Rosesanddaffs · 10/07/2025 15:42

I’m sorry for your losses, it’s hard, I felt like this during my pregnancy and previously having had a mmc I could only think of the worst.

If I’m honest I secretly worried throughout the whole pregnancy but I tried to take each day as it came.

Sending you lots of positive vibes xx

Moosey898 · 10/07/2025 18:10

IsThisMyRainbow · 10/07/2025 14:39

Iv had 4 previous losses. 2 of which was MMC at 6 & 7 weeks. I found out I was pregnant a month ago and I’m currently 7w 6d.

I have had 3 scans. All positive so far. No concerns. But I just cannot help but always thinking there is something wrong. I had my last scan two days ago and I’m already thinking Iv lost it.

I felt really crappy in week 5/6 but the last few days or so I feel a lot better. My boobs aren’t as sore. Don’t feel as tight down below. Not having any nausea. I think this is adding to my anxiety thinking something is wrong.

Any words of wisdom or suggestions how to deal with the constant worry? Thanks for listening x

I'm so sorry for your losses. I have had 4 too, all missed miscarriages found between 8-11 weeks on scans. I definitely have some sort of post traumatic response now whenever I go into scans. I'm pregnant for the 5th time currently and burst into tears the second I walked into my 12 week scan room. I'd never got that far and the thought of a loss even further along just hit me so hard. I'm now 14 weeks and still finding it difficult to believe that it could end well, with a real baby. I've been told it gets easier when you can feel them kick so I'm really hoping that's true! You are definitely not alone in how you're feeling xx

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IsThisMyRainbow · 10/07/2025 18:21

Thanks ladies. I know I’m not the only one that’s gone through tough times and some ladies have probably gone through worse. I’m taking a day at a time x

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IsThisMyRainbow · 10/07/2025 18:51

Must have Jinxed myself. Just started bleeding

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Superscientist · 10/07/2025 20:18

Oh I'm sorry, given your history its easy to think the worst but bleeding doesn't always mean miscarriage.
I've been on a few pregnancy after loss threads and some of those women have had bleeds, even heavy bleeds and still not miscarried.

Deep breaths and get checked out. I really hope that for you it isn't another loss. Take care.

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IsThisMyRainbow · 10/07/2025 20:37

Thank you @Superscientist I’m so scared. I’m just not hopeful at all now. I will ring EPAU in morning 😢

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Mummysparrow · 10/07/2025 20:38

I have only just found out that I am pregnant. It has taken me a year to conceive after my TFMR so at the moment I am still just so happy to get a positive test. But I know the anxiety is around the corner. I just can't go through a diagnosis and TFMR again.
I am currently in therapy so hoping that will help keep the anxiety down. I plan on just making time for my mental health like going for walks and meditation.
Be kind to yourself. We have lost the Naivety of pregnancy and it does make it harder doesn't it

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