Feeling panicked - positive test

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Hi all! Totally new here. I’m in my early 30s and just tested positive, clue says 3 weeks and 4 days, I wasn’t even due on yet but had sore boobs and took 2 clearblue tests including the digital one.

I wanted to reach out to see if anyone felt similar when they found out.

I’ve only been with my boyfriend a few months. We don’t live together, in-fact we live hours away from each other.

I’m spiralling a bit. This will mean moving in together, where? When? Who will leave their family? What about my job? Am I ready to be a parent? What if I mess up? What if I’m a bad parent? What if I lose myself and the things I enjoy now? What if my relationship doesn’t work out?

I feel awful and selfish as I know so many people want this, but I feel so panicked.

Don’t get me wrong, I did feel like I one day wanted children, it just feels so overwhelming the reality of this!

Sorry for rambling! Anyone have any stories of feeling similar or falling pregnant in less than ideal circumstances?

It doesn’t matter whether you’re in the most perfect set up or a chaotic one. I think with a wanted pregnancy the first reaction is joy followed by oh fuck, I’m not ready for this.

it does sound like you have more to sort out than most bit nothing needs to be done immediately. You didn’t ask for advice so feel free to disregard but don’t move away from your family. This is going to change your life way more than his and you’ll need their support

Thank you so much! I really appreciate it ❤️

Hey OP, what a surprise (shock?) for you. Maybe slightly less than ideal circumstances but please don't forget that you are still very early and you do have options.

I would discuss this first with your boyfriend and then depending on how that discussion goes, go from there. It's awful to point out blunt facts, sorry, but you would be the single parent if he doesn't feel positive about it and gets cold feet. Maybe consider that too. All the best!

Thank you! I have spoken to him and he’s been very supportive, giving me room to decide and that he’ll be there whatever happens which is great. He really wants kids so is pretty happy, he also worries in general a lot less than I do!

I tried for a year and still felt numb and shocked when I got the positive! My friend was dating a guy a few weeks and got pregnant accidentally, they've recently moved in together half way between their two houses and she's about 7 months pregnant :) But you do not have to move in together just because you're pregnant! You can still take things slowly if you want, it's a big change for everyone.

Thank you this is definitely reassuring! We both have jobs, we both own our homes and drive etc so the situation could certainly be worse!