Husband not interested in sex during pregnancy. Any advice?

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I'm 25 weeks pregnant. My husband hasn't been interested in sex for a while. He's finally said that he's just not attracted to me while I'm pregnant.
Do you have any advice? I'm pretty upset tbh.

I’m sorry to hear that OP, have you thought about couples counselling?

So sorry, this is really upsetting. It was slightly similar when I was pregnant, just that my DH didn’t dare to say it like that.

I had an INCREDIBLY high libido during pregnancy - it really was something of a problem.

To be honest, I bought some erotic literature and masturbated a lot! Exh and I had sex a few times during pregnancy I think, but it just wasn't that great as he wasn't really into it, and we were both (probably irrationally) worried about harming the pregnancy.

His desire for me soon returned when I wasn't pregnant any more.

I get that it's upsetting, but just find other ways to be close maybe, and ways you can enjoy orgasm on your own if you are feeling frisky!

It will soon pass, and you'll have a beautiful baby at the end of it, God willing!

Same here.. 2kids who are adults and all was fine post pregnancy. Not great but doesn’t have to mean anything..

I think this is pretty common. Sorry its upset you. Hopefully not be long and yous can be back to normal x

OP have you asked your husband why he feels like this? Some men think penetration will hurt the baby or the mother.

You need to remind him that post birth your body is going to need some time to recover, a minimum of six weeks and possibly months.

Does he realise that rejecting you sexually now, means that he probably won’t be having sex again until 2026?

You don’t want him to turn into one of those men who is pressuring you to have sex the moment the baby is born, because he’s been celibate throughout your pregnancy.

It is upsetting specially since he's the one who's done this to you but attraction and sex cannot be forced. I don't even know if your sex life could ever recover even after the baby your body will look different. I wouldn't even want to sleep next to him after that. Yes he's entitled to his views but I'm also entitled to my feelings about them.

Watch out pregnancy is prime cheating time.

Maybe make sure your finances are as good as you can and you have strengthened your support network.

It depends why I think.

If he's subconsciously worried about 'hurting' the baby, that's understandable. You could look for stats/evidence and talk it through. Or just avoid penetration but do other stuff.

If it's because he finds the baby bump unattractive there's not a lot he can do about it unfortunately. I can see you might find it hurtful, but sexual attraction is largely beyond our control. You wouldn't want him to fake it presumably! If this was me and DH, we would increase the non-sexual affection to make sure our relationship wasn't damaged during the dry spell! Lots of kisses, hugs, back rubs, just sitting close on the sofa etc.

Yeah, was the same for me. During my first pregnancy we didn't really have sex after about 24 weeks, he said it was 'weird' cause the baby was there so it out him off. With my second pregnancy it was a bit better and with my third we had sex nearly as normal so I think by the third pregnancy he'd mostly gotten over it. Sex was always in a way that the bump couldn't be seen though.

Not dissimilar to me, both pregnancies.
The difference was that DH would not initiate sex but he never ever said anything. But was particularly careful and caring around me during pregnancy and after birth and more cuddling. To be honest sex was the last thing on my mind. So maybe that was down to me? We did it very very little and I didn't like it whilst pregnant. I also didn't want any kind of action after birth. DH had to wait 9 months after first DC was born and he was actually very patient and understanding. Which was ver good for me. Everything settled back to normal eventually. No cheating on his part, no wondering eyes and I know he still thinks he's lucky to have me. (And I'm lucky to have him).

Thanks. I've definitely got a higher than normal libido at the moment so that's not helping!
Hopefully things are back to normal once I've recovered from birth etc. Best to focus on being affectionate in other ways for now. At least it's temporary.

My advice, masturbation is your friend haha

My Husband doesn't like sex when I'm Pregnant, especially when you start to feel baby kicking! He was fine after the birth of our son, i'm 27 weeks with our second and hes exactly the same this time too 😂

Yes. It depends on his reasoning why.. As upsetting as it is, i can understand it isnt for everyone.

As long as he's being affectionate and loving in other ways, you can give him a pass for this :)

That's unfortunate, men can be weird and a little stupid. Tell him you might have to outsource the job.

Tempting!