Early IVF Pregnancy Anxiety

[MrsC883]

Hi all, I'm very early in my first pregnancy (5 weeks 2 days) with my IVF baby, I had a FET and the first one has stuck, which I should be so grateful for...but.. I'm so extremely anxious about the pregnancy and I'm worrying that I won't make it up to 12 weeks, I'm also worried how me and my military husband are going to cope with a baby. These are things we have obviously spoken about and worked out (my husband only has 4 years left of his career) but all of a sudden its hit me and when he's away I'm missing him so much more than I did before, that probably sounds bad but I've learned to cope over the years we've been married.

I feel so utterly ungrateful as we worked so hard for this baby and I was so unwell throughout all the IVF and now at this moment it's been successful, I'm stressed and anxious about the whole thing. Is this normal, is this my hormones (which are extremely high according to my blood tests), am I being ungrateful when so many women would love to be in my position.

Oh OP please give yourself a break, and congratulations! Anxiety during early pregnancy is so so normal, I actually don’t know anybody who enjoyed their first trimester for exactly this reason, I haven’t in either of my pregnancies, because the worry of miscarriage & the unknown, 12 weeks feels like 12 years away- it is really totally normal. Rubbish, but normal, and I can imagine that feeling being even more intense when it’s an IVF baby as you’ve already been through so much just to get that positive test.

I also think there’s a bit of a “what the fuck” moment for lots of couples when you find out you’re pregnant, even when planned. With our daughter, a very much planned, tried and longer for pregnancy, I remember both my husband and I having a “oh God, a baby, how will we cope with a baby” when we first found out I was pregnant. The thought and hope of it happening and the reality were two different things- we were happy and are so happy, now expecting baby number 2. You’re only human and these are all very normal emotions. It’s okay to worry x

I think the thing with IVF and infertility is you spend so much time focusing on getting pregnant you don't really consider how it will feel to be pregnant and to have a baby.

For the next 7 weeks you just take it one day at a time. Get your scan booked in for when you're 7 weeks pregnant, with a bit of luck you'll see a heartbeat and with this the miscarriage odds drop dramatically.

Allow yourself to have overwhelmed or scared thoughts. Having a baby is scary, even if it was meticulously planned. I'm 23 weeks with my IVF pregnancy and I do have 'WTF HAVE I DONE?!' moments, but all will be well.

Congratulations! Unfortunately it's totally normal, I still feel anxious and my IVF baby is 4 months old. I remember feeling this and more. I didn't tell my family until after all the initial blood tests has come back clear. I held off telling work as long as possible as I was convinced if I told anyone it would go wrong.
As PP have said just take each day as it comes and try to enjoy it, you've worked so hard for it.

Massive congratulations!

I'm 18 weeks with our IVF baby (first round too, lucky us!) and I definitely had a 'WTF HAVE I DONE?!' moment when I had my first positive test this pregnancy, and have had many moments like that since, especially as I've had a rough pregnancy so far.

It's totally normal to feel grateful and excited and scared and anxious at the same time. Go easy on yourself, rest, and try and enjoy this time (easier said than done I know)