Partner slapped me in my face pregnant

[Pregnantpeach]

im 32 weeks pregnant things have always been okay I’ve been homeless for a while and staying in temporary accommodation and he’s been helping me a lot looking after me buying me food and toiletries and today he mentioned a story just a general story about his friends about a girl from my past who I do not talk to anymore I didn’t react or say anything I just stayed quiet I texted my friend saying how I was feeling a bit mad because he brought her up and then he asked me to show my phone which I was reluctant and I showed a chat of my sister instead but he knew I was lying and he said tell the truth so I told him yeah I texted my friend about how I was feeling he already dislikes this friend because before pregnancy she would make me go to guys a lot and bring guys around me a lot so he started yelling a lot and then smacked me in my face out of no where I was really shocked because I’m heavily pregnant with his child and didn’t expect it from him I don’t know what to do I rely on him financially for help and what not

Report him to the police.
Is your midwife aware of your situation?

He’s shown you his true colours. This is not a man who you want to have around your child.

Are you safe now? You should really report him to the police for the assault.

Longterm, it sounds like you weren’t living together, do you have a place to stay? Have you been to the council regarding housing? Do you work?

I’m so sorry to hear this but I’m afraid this doesn’t bode well. If he is prepared to do this, he will almost certainly do it again. Please do report it to the police or if you do not want to do this, tell your midwife and ask if there are any IDVAs in your area (independent domestic violence advisors) as they might be able to help advise and signpost you. Good luck.

Get rid of him. You've nothing to lose.

What an utter scumbag he is. Please seek help as op’s have suggested and get this worm out of your life.

I would definitely report to the police. He’s hit you once, he will hit you again for sure.

Oh love, I am so sorry. Domestic violence so often starts, or ramps up, in pregnancy. And it won't be just once. It's never just once. He is controlling (demanding to look at your phone) and physically abusive. And you are so very very vulnerable. Is he the father of your child? Is this a man you could safely leave alone with a tiny baby? Domestic violence is a predictor for violence against children. Please, please, protect yourself. Preferably by calling the police, but if you can't manage that try Women's Aid. Home - Women's Aid

Please get away from him. This is the new normal; he has shown you who he is. You now have one lucid shot at freedom before you begin to explain away his violence, because it is so scary to leave when you're heavily pregnant.
Do not put his name on the birth certificate if at all possible.
This is the ONE bit of advice I wish I could have given myself many years ago.

Apart from hitting you why is he not putting a roof over your head and allowing you to be homeless?

No! This is really bad. Please for the love of god, don’t let him near you again or the child. He will do it again and it will get more frequent and worse! My dad was like this to my mum (I’m 37) and he got worse and worse and by the time she had my brother he was hurting her all the time and she was depressed. She left him years ago but I remember them fighting and arguing all the time. She said she never thought he’d do that to her but he was always an arse it just took a while for his true personality to come out.
he was also very jealous of me and my siblings.
it started with shoving and pulling around then slapping/punching/kicking/biting and lots and lots of coercive control.
this guy is a wrongun.

No she doesn’t know about anything going on

I been to the council I’m staying in temporary accommodation now

You need to get rid of him now. Even without the physical violence your relationship sounds childish and toxic, a lot of he-said, she-said drama and nonsense. Your child should not witness arguments like that and violence is a whole other no-no.
You need to report him to the police and tell your midwife. Social services will become involved if they haven’t already and you need to be seen to be protecting your child. More than “being seen” you need to actually be protecting your child from him.
As you aren’t married I assume then don’t have him on the birth certificate and do apply for child maintenance from him.

When they show you who you are, believe them.

You do not need this waste of space. Focus on you and baby, please!

As with PP Please tell your Mid Wife they will be able to help you and keep you safe .
also as others have mentioned, this is just the start and will only get worse.
You need to be safe and Baby doesn’t deserve to be around someone who’s does not respect you .TELL YOUR MIDWIFE please .

How are you today OP? Are you safe?

Hi thank you so much for this yeah I am okay I am safe I’m in my temporary accommodation now he’s not allowed in here no one is so I am safe I am well thank you for the concern appreciate it a lot ❤️

Look after yourself. You matter.

Get rid of the bastard!!!

Glady you had the presence of mind and courage to stay calm and laugh at this low life woman,
Keep away from her and your husband as much as you can. He is a real piece of work as well.

Put all you energy into having a good future life for yourself and your child.

That's the main thing