Scared I’ve loss pregnancy symptoms and 12 scan is next week…any advice?

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This is my tenth pregnancy and no living children. i have had 2 ectopic pregnancies, 1 molar and 7 miscarriages all before 10weeks.

i am 11.3 weeks today and my scan isn’t until 30th June. I had a scan at 6 and 7.5weeks and everything was perfect.

BUT….. I’ve been as sick as a dog since 4 weeks, so tired I could barely function, sore boobs and generally just didn’t feel myself at all but in the last week I feel so much better. I can eat, I don’t need my anti sickness tablets, my boobs don’t hurt, I’m not constipated anymore. I am still tired but I can function again. I don’t know if this is normal or not as I’ve never got this far before but it seems to be too big of a change to be good.

I am so scared I’ve miscarried but this time it’s a missed miscarriage. I’ve convinced my husband of this too.

I am currently on holiday abroad so can’t go for a private scan or anything. I feel so devastated at the thought of another miscarriage. My husband has already said he would not want to try again if I had miscarriage as it’s just too hard now. It took us a year to fall pregnant this time.

Any honest advice would be greatly appreciated. I’m just so sad and anxious.

I believe it's normal to lose a lot of 1st trimester pregnancy symptoms when the placenta takes over at 9/10 weeks.
Certainly from what I read on here it's very normal for symptoms to subside dramatically around the end of the 1st trimester.

I'm so sorry youve had so much loss and heartache. Have you had any investigation or treatment for recurring miscarriage.

thank you for replying. I have been reading it’s normal but I’m just so scared. I feel so much better.

Yes I’ve been under them for a few years but they can not find any reason for my miscarriages. Over the years we have tried different drug combinations to help reduce the risk of miscarriage but it’s never worked. This time I’m on progesterone only.

I’m sorry but I think you just have to try to wait it out. Symptoms do often ease at around the 12 week mark, so it could be nothing and you’re just following a normal timeline. I know there’s no way you’ll be able to put this out of your mind but please try to relax as this really doesn’t sound to me like it’s a definite thing. I’ve had a missed miscarriage so completely understand your worries, I can’t imagine how anxious you must be going through it so many times, and it’s understandable you’re on high alert.

I was the same with my next pregnancy, and was also super close to my scan so when I called the early pregnancy unit, they said I may as well wait for my scan appointment. They also said, and I felt this was harsh at the time but it does make sense, that there is nothing that could be done at this stage to change the outcome either way, so it’s not an emergency. By the time I went in I was kind of resigned to it being bad news, and was shocked to see everything was fine.

I don’t know if anything anyone can say will really put your mind at ease, but it really could be nothing.

Don't lose hope. I had 2 mc and for both my symptoms continued. I was still sick every morning for weeks after. You may have just passed into the 2nd trimester. Wishing you good luck.

Rather than wait till your end of June scan could you get a private scan. The wait must be awful. Hope you get a good outcome. But I agree symptoms like sickness can ease off.

With all my missed miscarriages (4) the symptoms have continued right up until having surgical management - symptoms often go down towards the end of the first trimester so there's every chance it could be that. I completely understand your anxiety, my 12 week scan with pregnancy no 5 is on Friday after 4 consecutive losses (all between 8-11 weeks). It's horrible not knowing until you have the scan, but there's nothing you can do to change the outcome. I will keep everything crossed for you that it's good news at your 12 week scan xx

I'm 17 weeks and my symptoms have been very on and off for weeks. I bet you'll wake up in a few days feeling rubbish again!

I had two pregnancies last year with hyperemesis that ended in miscarriage. I'm on my third pregnancy and didn't even find out I was pregnant until 7.5 weeks by which point I'm normally bed bound. Sickness wasn't nearly as bad but was on antiemetics for 3 weeks stopping at 10.5 weeks managed fine. It completely threw me as it was so different to the pregnancies I had last year and with my daughter where I was sick until about 14 weeks. I'm now 26 weeks!

THIS!

I’m also 17 weeks and, OP, I felt horrendous until about where you are now, and thought (this is my first), “oh that was a piece of piss! I’m in to second trimester super happy fun times and great hair and glow!”…big fat nope. I had two-three weeks of feeling fab and then it came back. I retched more from week 13 to now than the first 10 weeks, the headaches are worse, the random bouts of nausea.

There’s no pattern or rhyme nor reason - I was on extra progesterone (IVF) and never had constipation. Came off the pessaries and then got a bit constipated?! But passed within a week. My boobs didn’t hurt after 12 or so weeks.

Easier said than done, but if you stress, the cortisol won’t help you. It’s all such a rollercoaster, but you hang on in there.

So sorry for all your losses

I don’t think anything can be done besides waiting for your scan

I don’t think it’s unusual to feel a lot “better” (for want of a better word) at around this stage though

wishing you the very best

I read your post this morning and have been thinking about it a lot today. We are in very similar positions as this is my 8th pregnancy with no surviving babies. This will probably be our last attempt as well. That helps to really gain some perspective.

This is the last time you will be 11 weeks pregnant. This is the last time you have to go through your 12 week scan anxiety. This is your last time being in the first trimester. Whatever the scan reveals, this will be your last time being this pregnant again.

I would take that time to live in this moment now. I'm not saying ignore your fears - they're valid and understandable. But don't let them steal these precious days from you. You've waited so long to get here. Be here with it.

When that scan anxiety creeps in, come back to right now. Feel your body. Rest in this moment. This is your baby, this is your pregnancy, and this is happening now.

Whatever the future holds, you'll face it when it comes. But today, you are pregnant and you are here.

Terrific post by @JunkJane

It's also advice my therapist gave me in the early weeks.

Thank you all for replying. Your words meant so much to me over the last week and a bit.

@JunkJane thank you so much you really allowed to enjoy the last week. I kept thinking to myself I am pregnant today when ever I felt anxious or worried.

I went to my scan today and there was no heartbeat. We are completely broken. Baby measured 11.2weeks so a day before my symptoms improved. I’m just so devastated 💔

Oh gosh I’m so sorry to read this.

Nothing anyone can say can make this better.

Be kind to yourself, however you need to, and for as long as you need. I found private counselling to be really helpful.

I'm so, so sorry. That is devastating 💔

I’m so sorry

So so sorry to hear this heartbreaking!

I’m so sorry this has happened to you again it’s heartbreaking. Have you had your thyroid checked? This can cause early miscarriages. Sending love x