In pain from abuse

[bpdmama]

I seen a message on my partners phone with a name I asked who it was he got angry pushed me I fell off the bed cut my feet it’s swollen can’t walk on it and he blood blistered my finger all this from the fall my thigh hurts and he threw a bit of water at me? If it’s nothing why do all this now he is refusing to leave me house. He don’t this before I asked him who someone was he pulled my hair and nearly pushed me down the stairs I’m 6 months pregnant I wasn’t to get out but too scared to get police involved as from past experience social services I’m in bits I’ve wasn’t like this before I got pregnant been together 7 years please help me

I’m sorry but nobody on here can help you. You need to get yourself away from this man as he is going to seriously harm you.

Do you have friends and family you can go to? You need to get the police involved if this is not the first time!!

You are in a dangerous and abusive relationship and when your baby is born, they will also be at risk from this man. It is really good that you are asking for help. Can you call a helpline for advice? You need to speak to people who can help you and who are trained and experienced to offer you safe advice. I have included a couple of links. You can call the National Domestic Abuse Helpline or speak to them on a live chat if you can't talk on the phone. Do you have anywhere safe you can go?

https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/

https://www.tommys.org/pregnancy-information/being-pregnant/domestic-abuse-and-pregnancy

You really need to call the police and get yourself far away from this situation.
You run the risk of social services intervention if you don’t get police involved as you are choosing a violent man over your child.
I am so sorry to sound harsh but you need to leave that house immediately. I appreciate it is easy for others to say and we don’t know your full circumstances in relation to family, financial, cultural issues but you need to put you and baby first.
please do something x

As others have already said, OP you need to leave this abusive relationship. It will happen again in the future and your baby will also be at risk. Is there a friend or family member close by you can stay with or call for help?

As a previous poster has said, you can call the National Domestic Abuse helpline.

Here is the Women’s Aid website for more advice too: https://www.womensaid.org.uk/?_gl=11oihlep_gaMTgzMzk3OTEyLjE3NTA1NDMyNjE._ga_EL0RGMRDY0*czE3NTA1NDMyNzgkbzEkZzAkdDE3NTA1NDMzMDckajMxJGwwJGgw

I know this is an extremely difficult situation for you, but please do seek help or call the police if you’re in danger right now. There are people who will be able to help you. x

Really sorry you are going through this OP. Can you get support from friends or family as you need to end this relationship.

Here is the Mumsnet page with useful links too OP:
www.mumsnet.com/i/domestic-violence-webguide

Hi OP @bpdmama Just wanted to say again that you’re not alone. You’ve done the right thing reaching out for help. There are people who care and want to keep you safe, please consider calling one of the helplines in the above links. I hope you have received medical attention for your foot. Take care of yourself. x