9 days overdue and feeling down

[browndivegirl]

Am really suffering at the moment, am 9 days overdue and am suffering with really low mood. Is now too hard for me to walk very far, a wander round babiesrus left me with an incredibly sore back today, and am beginning to feel like a prisoner in my own body. Am concerned that I should be feeling positive about meeting my baby, but am beginning to feel (dare I say it) a bit resentful
Would love some tips on how to keep my spirits up, am doing all the pineapple / curry etc stuff to hurry things along, but these things don't really help to keep me smiling. Induction booked for Tues, which I really didn't want to have as I don't like hospitals and really wanted 1st stage to happen at home where I think I'll cope with the pain much better.
I know that in some countries you are not even considered overdue until you're at 43 weeks... Think the last few weeks are definately the hardest wherever the line is drawn...
Any words of wisdom gratefully recieved.

Have you tried an alternative therapy like reflexology? Try and get someone to come to the house (I am lucky my cousin is a therapist). I believe there are certain pressure points that can start labour but not sure how "true" this is.

At least it would be relaxing for you?

Take it easy.

You know I would suggest that you totally forget about being overdue for the weekend. Try to plan a nice something with your partner. Do lots of nice things and you may be surprised by labour starting.

By the way, you do not need to go for induction on Tuesday if you don't want to.
The hospital will offer you a scan to check up on the baby and your midwife will probably see you more often.

Had a client last week who went to 42+5.

What's important is that you are aware of your baby ( movements) and respond to any intuition that suggests that things are no longer ok.

Wishing you a positive birth experience and a lovely baby.

Sunriseanja

I agree with sunrise. Your EDD is just that! An estimated due date.

Why not treat yourself to some pampering? Go for some reflexology. Your baby will come.

You don't have to be induced unless you want to.

Oh I feel so sorry for you. T+14 with ds1 and T+12 with ds2. Though I work with someone who went T+18 dd1 and T+17 dd2!! It is miserable, you feel "any time now" from about 36weeks, and you're still hanging on 6 weeks later. And you see dreams of a quiet early labour at home and labour without intervention slipping away. And you feel somehow a failure for not doing it right... Bollocks. You're doing so wonderfully, why would the baby want to come out?! And there's no reason why you won't go into labour before your induction date, and there's people who refuse to be induced, just get monitored regularly. And even if you are induced, that does not mean it will all go wrong. If you're able, have you talked to your Mum about it; certainly in my sisters' experience it definitely runs in families, maybe she'd give you an understanding hug.

Am interested to hear that I do not have to be induced... I thought that the placenta can sometimes not support babies who are so far overdue and that is why they induce them. Will discuss with my hubby and see what he thinks. I'm anxious that I'm seeing it as an easy way out. If nothing happens this weekend, then I know something will occur on Tues.
Baby is still moving around plenty, and growing - I have new stretch marks every morning!
Am virtually housebound now though. Got my husband to give me a massage last night, he agrees that the EDD is a bit arbitrary...
Am generally feeling a little better than I did yesterday - which was a new low.
Thanks for your messages of support.

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Oh you poor thing! I went further over with each of mine and it is hard work. No advice for starting labour but just wanted to say that I was induced at T+12 with DD and despite my worries it was very straightforward. Like you I did not want to be in hospital for long but was so uncomfy by that stage I didn't care! Also, Tuesday is still 3 days away so plenty of time for baby to decide to come out of its own accord and meet you!

I was 9 days overdue with DD2. She was due during half term and my other 2 had been early so at the end of term everyone kept saying oh when we see you next you will have a LO. Well I didnt but I felt ok about it until I went to school and everyone looked so dissapointed.

Had a routine hospital appointment to talk about induction. Dr did a sweep, smiled and said see you later with a I gave birth that evening.

You have my sympathy. I went 10 days overdue and was induced. I'd had enough by that point but remember that you don't have to be induced if you don't want to. I hated those last two weeks - horrible time.
I had acupuncture when I was overdue. Didn't bring labour on but it was worth a try and I found it very relaxing. And it took my mind off things for a couple of hours.
Treat yourself for now. Eat what you want, get some DVDs, have lots of baths, and sleep as much as you can. Easier said than done I know, but this really is the time to indulge yourself.
Get some good friends or family round. Happy people that won't go on about how the baby is not here and make you more miserable.
It really won't be long now until you are holding your baby and NOT PREGNANT ANYMORE!

I had a sweep on Wed and the doctor was so convinced that it would work she really got my hopes up, so by the time Friday came and still no signs I was soooo disappointed. Have got family visiting tomorrow, thinking there'd be a baby to cuddle... The worst pressure is from myself though rather than everyone else.
Planning to watch eurovision this evening with a take out!
So desperate to meet the little thing.......

Hi, I know exactly how you feel! I an over by 5 days now and am due to go in on Friday to be induced. This is my first baby and I am so keen to meet him/her. I was at the consultant last Tuesday (1 day over) they did a sweep but said it didn't look hopeful and it wasn't. I am at the midwife again on Tuesday so am going to ask for another one, really don't want to be induced in hospital but am also wanting this to all be over ASAP.

I completely know how you feel, you not on your own xx

This is my first too, which makes it all worse as I'm so impatient. The last nine months have been fantastic, I've been lucky and had no problems throughout the pregnancy and I really thought that the baby would come on the due date!

Me too! I had no morning sickness, no nothing, have sailed through it. It is so frustrating waiting isn't it? Lets just hope that both of us go into labour naturally and don't need to be induced. My fingers are crossed for us both xx Good luck xx

I had an induction, they tried to sweep but Ds head was still high (until I went into labour), so they said they couldn't.
I tried to get them to wait for longer but started having really quite nasty false labour pains so was really glad to get on with it in the end!!!
They started me off with a gel and that worked I didn't need a drip to start me off and waters broke naturally, everything else was natural (apart from gas and air and one pethidine in the middle).

Its good hearing stories like that! Hope I go before I am induced but if not then i want a story like yours chocbiscuits!

With dd1 (41 weeks) and ds (42 weeks) they arrived one day earlier than the induction date. Dd2 decided she would break the trend and arrive 2 days later than induction date (42+2 weeks), obviously I didn't accept the induction and wouldn't have with the first two either.

You don't have to go in even if they've booked you in already. I called them up and said I wanted to cancel the induction.

There really are not many days left now so hold on there and let's hope you're contracting right now. Happy contracting thoughts to you .

Hi,
I am currently 9 days overdue and have spent the best part of the last 2 weeks thinking 'any minute / day now' and still no joy .

I've had various 'sypmtoms' such as almost permanent (but painless) contractions, lots of 'pressing down' feelings, regular toilet visits (sorry TMI!). I've tried curries, long (and bouncy!) walks, a bumpy car ride, pineapple, sitting on my yoga ball, etc.

I had a sweep on Friday morning and have been booked for induction on Wednesday, which I'm not looking forward to and the waiting is making me even more nervous because its giving me time to think about what is about to happen and how much it will hurt!! However, the midwife said she'd be VERY surprised if I make it to Wednesday as baby is in the optimum position (4/5 engaged) and everything is ready to go IFKWIM.

The thing is, I went just 3 days overdue with my DS1 and had a very 'easy' straightforward labour with NO problems whatsoever. So this time I was (naievely) expecting the same sort of thing. I never thought I'd get to this stage!

So, after feeling VERY low yesterday we went for a long day out shopping and bought lovely things for me (just bejewelled hairclips and a beaded bracelet but it took my mind off of things!) and then had a picnic in the park with my DH and DS .

I felt quite uncomfortable last night so sat on my yoga ball again and finished my pineapple but I'm STILL here today!

However, I have concluded that the best thing to do is to just enjoy sleeping (or attempting to!) at the moment as our lives are about to change un-recognisably and to try to enjoy spending time with my DS and DH.

When my logical brain steps in (which doesn't make many appearances at a time like this!) I know that this baby WILL arrive when it and my body are completely ready. But until then I'm just waiting...and waiting...and waiting... .

Hello ladies - me too.
I'm only just overdue but similar to browndivegirl I've pretty much sailed through and expected to have my baby by now.

Not helped by family insisting all the way along that I'd 'definately go early' as most women in my family do and all the emails and texts asking me if anything's happened and 'jokes' about 'could you have it this weekend please'
Feel like hiding in a hole today to be honest and ignoring the phone!

Can't really offer any advice apart from empathy and a pointer to the May ante natal thread where there are quite a few of us fed up overdue May mummies chatting!
Best wishes to you all and hope we all get to meet our babies soon!

I've done a lot of net surfing this morning for info about inductions etc, have read loads and feel much happier about going for it on Tues, particularly as I'll be T+13 days then. All the research seems to advocate induction of some form when 2 weeks overdue to protect health of the baby, though I'm going to go for prostaglandin only rather than syntocinon as the latter tends to bring on contractions thick and fast and leads to an increased no of c-sections.

Still hoping for a natural start - got about 48 hours to go...

I went to 41+5 with DD2 and to make matters worse I was 37+5 with DD1 so thought DD2 would be early or at least on time.

I tried absolutely everything you can think of her to shift her, that final week was torture, I had bad SPD, sinusitis and an 18 mo to contend with, I used to come on MN every morning and cry so you have all my sympathies.

I was booked in for induction on the Saturday and DD2 was born on the Thursday so fingers crossed you will be the same. I actually welcomed the induction as I was so fed up and in so much pain.

This time I just so want to go on time.

Glad you are feeling happier about the prospect of induction (if it comes to that). My induction involved just prostoglandin at around 9.30am, they broke my waters at 6.00pm and baby was in my arms by 9.27pm!