I just had a baby, why am I missing being pregnant

[Francescarae]

I have a two week old baby and I am absolutely loving life with her, we had been TTC for 10 years and had IVF to have her, we also har a previous loss so it’s been a lot to get here, literally a dream come true.

the first 12 weeks of pregnancy were filled with nerves and I did spent a lot of the time holding my breath thinking that something would go wrong but I really enjoyed being pregnant and celebrated each milestone, I was really lucky I had an easy pregnancy and also a great birth via elective c section and it was all the most amazing experience, I think I also enjoyed the build up to each milestone and counted down the weeks until my c section date. I’m not sure why I’m missing being pregnant so much or if it’s the fact that I was 100 percent sure we were one and done as it’s been such a struggle I said we would never try again , but I do now think I want to be pregnant again (obviously not right now) but at some point as I keep thinking about giving her a sibling or am I missing the pregnancy, I don’t even know why I’m thinking about it all. I am really enjoying being a mummy it’s the best thing in the world.

feeling slightly confused as I thought once she was here I would feel complete and thought I would close the door on fertility struggles and TTC forever, I’m not sure if I’m missing the pregnancy or I’ve realised that I’m not done with my fertility journey, has anyone else felt the same? Also the birth was so amazing I keep thinking how can I not feel that again.

not really sure what I’m actually asking here but it’s just on my mind

Congratulations 🎉 and I missed being pregnant till even the last twins. But maybe it was because it all was good for me from waiting till the end home births of maybe I just love having a little one brewing inside there. Anyhow now with 3 toddlers together who adore each other and play together if I was in better health I would have loved more 😆

Thank you! Aww how lovely to have three toddlers. We do have another embryo so could potentially use it in the future, I just didn’t expect to feel like this

I had a similar feeling in the first 2-3 weeks after birth, and similar to you I was very confused by these feelings. I really did not plan to have another baby and have difficult pregnancies so didn't make sense at all to miss being pregnant. But about 4-5 weeks in I realised it was probably the shock of it all, finally having a much awaited baby and that part of life being over and done with, knowing that I can't go back and feeling like it had all gone by too soon. And that I won't be experiencing the anticipation of a baby and going through birth again, which is a very special time.

The feeling went away, thankfully. I was properly able to enjoy my baby without feeling wistful about the 4 to 5 week point. It's just hormones I think and the huge change.

Thank you, this makes me feel better, I do feel like it all went by so quickly and I really really enjoyed the anticipation of waiting for our longed for baby so maybe this is it, maybe the feelings will die down like you say, I even miss feeling the movements and my bump x

I know what you mean. I had my IVF baby last week, and as I write this she's napping in my arms after a 4am feed. I'm so in love with her. I also had an ELCS, though not really my choice, it was booked in as she was breech. I loved being pregnant and I actually felt very emotional the day before and morning of the CS because I was sad about not being pregnant anymore. However as I struggle around now in my CS recovery, I'm not sure I'm desperate to do it again in a hurry 😂

I'm so glad I found this thread, and hope it is still being watched.
We have struggled with unexplained secondary infertility for the past 4 years, and started our IVF journey 2 years ago. Anyway, just over 1 week ago we finally welcomed our little miracle into the world, and we couldn't be happier.
However I have been hit hard with the blues!! I had them with our first daughter, so expected them, but this time they are about something totally different.

The last time it was hard adjusting to life with our first baby, and that loss of independence. This time, I feel like she has slotted into our family amazingly, and she is just perfect, and I don't feel any upset towards having two, or adjusting to the new family dynamic. I feel like my blues are being brought on this time due to mourning the loss of our fertility journey. I know that sounds totally crazy, it was a horrific time, but it has been all consuming and life as we knew it for so long, and now it's gone, it's hard to adjust to life without it. I feel like it became my personality and I don't know who to be without it and everything involved. I also feel like it was a "project" just for me and my husband, and it brought us so much closer, and now I miss him

You might be missing the feeling of anticipation. I think when things become reality we miss the buzz that we had beforehand of expectation, and it gives us a bit of an empty feeling after the fact.
I definitely felt it with my second pregnancy too (my post above) but did not have it with my first.
The feeling went away after a few weeks when the new reality started feeling more real.
Even now though, 8 months later, I sometimes miss being pregnant, although I really was miserable when pregnant. Or maybe I just miss the free time I had, the waiting for something good and all the food I could eat guiltlessly. By which I mean I miss all the nice bits about being pregnant which stop very suddenly as soon as you have a baby (and forget all the difficult bits, rose tinted glasses and all).
Enjoy your new baby and congratulations!! The feeling will pass 😊

I think your right with regards the anticipation. I also think maybe I never thought about how I would feel if everything was successful. I was in self preservation mode for so long, protecting my heart for failure. We had one failed IVF cycle so I don't think I ever expected it to work. Even though we are over the moon and so happy with our outcome, I obviously never thought about what it would be like when the journey was over. I didn't enjoy my pregnancy, it was hard this time round with lots of difficulties, but I enjoyed the bubble I was in and being wrapped in cotton wool, and feeling special after everything we had been through. I guess missing the attention is totally normal

Hi there, can I first say a huge congratulation's to all you