Very mixed feelings about this pregnancy

[Yellowdaff25]

I’m almost 7 weeks pregnant and feeling extremely mixed emotions probably not helped by hormones.

This pregnancy was planned and we tried for 16 months for it but as soon as I found out about it I was suddenly struck with absolute panic. We already have a 5 year old and I’m suddenly so worried the age gap is too much, I’m worried I won’t be able to love this new baby as much as my son who is my entire world and my heart hurts that he may feel he is being replaced etc. Also the feeling of having to start all over again from scratch, the sleepless nights and potential colic (my son had colic and it was horrendous!)

I am happy deep down of course but my emotions are spiralling and I feel like I’m all over the place.

Does anyone else feel similar🥹

I was exactly the same, same age gap and all the same worries as you, I'd thrown most of the baby stuff away. It has been absolutely fine and beyond my expectations, my 2 are currently upstairs playing together!

I felt/feel the same as you. Pregnant with my second. My first is 5. We were trying and soon as i got pregnant i panicked. Feeling and thinking all the same things as you. Worried i wont be able to cope with 2 children. I'm 27 weeks and although its slightly easier now i still have random anxiety attacks. Its normal to feel these things and im sure so many women feel this way.

I feel exactly the same. 6 weeks pregnant, have a 2 year old. The colic is what is terrifying me and my husband. Ours turned out to be CMPA and we obviously are much wiser now, but I'm scared about doing all that with a toddler too. I want the baby so much but it's a lot to think about. Sending love and solidarity.

I have a 5 year old too and am 10 weeks pregnant.
Exactly the same feelings.. Worried about doing it all again, the different development stages and that they won't have much in common. Worried my little one will feel replaced, I also threw out everything as we thought we were done so have to buy all new again.
I'm sure once we are holding them we will feel differently, trying not to feel negative when this pregnancy was very much wanted.

Thank you all for the replies, it’s very comforting to know I’m not alone in feeling this way xx

I’m 42 and have 3 teens the youngest being 14, I have had 2 losses and really hoping this one sticks, the age gap isn’t even in my thoughts. 5 years isn’t too long at all!! I’ve 7 between 2 of mine and it was lovely. They loved having a younger baby and wanted to help loads.

Same here 5 year age gap due to fertility struggles. Expecting any day now. Delighted to be pregnant as it was a massive struggle to get here but all the same having the same worries as you.