Sooo after my previous post I’m 40 weeks plus 3 days now. To say I am fed up now is an understatement as I was bang on the dot with my 1st born (yes all pregnancies are different). But this little one’s just dragging his heels.
To clarify on my partner we were absolutely fine 9 months back and my partner had no issues with health or drink. But Im finding it quite hard to want to be intimate with my partner which was suggested to spur on dilation. But my partners managed to cause 4 injuries too himself in his knees and elbows. Had scan after scan and been told the same thing nothing is wrong stop over compensating or over exerting the area’s that are aggravated your making it worse but my partners obsessive googling his injuries is making him have medical anxiety. He’s a habit of vanishing on ‘relaxing’ walks alone when he’s not at work so I spend 99.9% of the time alone with our almost 3 yr old whilst heavily pregnant. He doesn’t tend to come help until he hears me reaching the end of my tether battling with our son. We can’t have conversations about anything to do with the pregnancy or what can we do together to help me get going or how can he help me out as he will change the subject to talk about himself or he will only suggest going places that directly interest him but knows stress me out but if I were to suggest something I know he would most likely enjoy once there he won’t entertain it, moans he can’t do anything with me but finds the strength in his elbows to pick up a pint of beer when the occasion calls and suddenly the issues vanish. His drinking is making things very unappealing to me personally but it’s just destroying us slowly and I really can’t focus on a toddler, this incoming baby and my partners family issues with alcohol, his family all drink excessively and they admit they have issues with booze. My partner would rather spend time with me in a beer garden or a garden centre (neither of which I relaxing or entertaining it’s mostly what he wants to do if I suggest anything I will usually be told no I hate doing that go on your own).
My midwives made suggestions that because I’m 2cm’s and the babies head can be touched I am very close to labour it’s just a waiting game currently, they said ‘intimacy, relaxing couples activities like massages etc’ and he just totally brushed them off and ignored them; absolutely NOT nope not his thing not interested he prefers to do this. But as soon as we left he wanted to go to the pub for food and a beer and was expecting me to taxi him about so he can drink knowing how uncomfortable I feel driving currently.
SO the bottom line being - I’m obviously doing this getting into labour business alone, if I wanna do anything relaxing or enjoyable for myself Its clearly just me and my son on our own, so I feel quite unsupported currently, and to make matters worse my parents are on holiday so I feel even more alone than ever.
Any suggestions people to what I can do to help possibly get myself going? Iv got clary sage for my baths, iv got my ball, I'm trying to keep upright mobile and then relax between but its quite hard when caring for a toddler, iv tried eating dates and pineapple (pineapple gives me reflux annoyingly).
Any other suggestions please??