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CVS today - nuchal scan yesterday, soft nasal bone, 1 in 96 chance of Downs Syndrome...

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LadyThompson · 21/05/2008 11:36

Had nuchal scan and bloods yesterday at the Fetal Medicine Centre - nuchal fold, heart and everything else perfect, and when I phoned my obs she said were it not for one thing I'd have walked out with 1 in 900 - BUT at 11 weeks 6 days, the nasal bone hasn't calcified, and this is a marker for DS, and brings me down to 1 in 96, which is apparently considered very high risk (though it still means 95 out of 96 babies with my results will be chromosomally usual!). My obstetrician has advised me to have a CVS, which I can have tonight. Obviously I am worried about this. IF there isn't a chromosomal abnormality, possibilities are: that it will just develop normally in the next week or two; or that my child maybe born without a nasal bone. My obs has delivered three babies like this, and they have reconstructive surgery and you can't tell there's been a prob by the time they go to school. Sorry to go on - anyone had any experience of any of these things? Any advice welcomed.

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LadyThompson · 23/05/2008 16:19

YES but I am not falling for that one I have seen what happens to people on here, sharing their cherished, long thought of names, only to have people rolling in the aisles and saying "Ugh, my neighbour's scabby dog was called that" or "What, THAT mass murderer?" or "But think of the playground - it rhymes with ----" or whatever. Besides, my DP and I don't agree! My name is boring and I want to give my daughter something more unusual. But nothing unusual for the sake of it, like Frogmella or Snazzia or something.

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theheadgirl · 23/05/2008 16:52

Yeay to you and your girl!! Don't feel bad for feeling happy, I don't think anyone would CHOOSE for their child to have Downs. But I wouldn't swap my girl for a "normal" child now anyway (none of my 3 have ever been "normal" though!)
I hope you have a happy pregnancy and that all goes well. Now then, let me tell you all about childbirth....

clumsymum · 23/05/2008 17:00

LadyT,

I'm sooooo pleased for you. Many many congrats.

Can I just say something? Please don't feel ashamed of yourself for thinking that you may have considered termination if the result had been different.
Life with any child can be tough (you'll find that out soon), as well as having wonderful aspects. Life with a disabled child is tougher, sometimes MUCH tougher. My sister and I were both born with disabilities, and my parents had to fight very hard to get us the opportunities other children had. In addition, they were emotionally pulled apart every time we needed surgery, and my father eventually had a complete nervous breakdown.

Life as a disabled child is no picnic either, which is why I was concerned to find out if my child would have my condition. I didn't want to subject any other person to some of the things I had to contend with.

I know many people on here believe we shouldn't choose, that we should just accept whatever comes our way. But as we have the technology to do so, then I believe we should.

And I sincerely and truly admire and respect those parents who go thru all the heartbreak and stress that helping a disabled child thru life entails. But I hope we don't condemn anyone who feels thay can't do it.

(steps off soapbox, and gives you a big smile).

yogimum · 23/05/2008 17:06

many congratulations. Now enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

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LadyThompson · 23/05/2008 17:12

Thanks clumsymum and theheadgirl, for your thought provoking posts. Good Heavens, I wouldn't condemn anyone for taking either path - let's face it, both would have their own hardships. I'm still getting my head round everything tbh. But I mean it about finding a suitable charity to give money to - perhaps one like the one sitdowngeorge mentioned - so if anyone can guide me on this it'd be great. If that doesn't sound all glib.

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kitkat9 · 23/05/2008 18:14

Congratulations! A girl! How lovely !

I'm relieved for you too - that you don't have to make any difficult decisions. YOu can count your blessings now, and get on with enjoying your pregnancy.

Donating to a DS charity is a super idea, although I have no idea which one! Perhaps you could google it. Is there maybe a local organisation that would benefit?

angel1976 · 23/05/2008 19:11

Hi LadyThompson,

Congrats!!!! I know exactly what you mean... I now keep telling people that unless they have walked in my shoes, they have no right to judge me on my choices and I extend the same thought to everyone. I STILL don't know what I would have done and until we are faced with the situation again, I doubt I will ever know.

Have a great pregnancy! My DS is 3 months today (and started doing half-laughs when I blow raspberries on his tummy) and those dark days are so far behind me now.

Heron23 · 23/05/2008 19:30

hi ladythompson, just been reading this thread as i am just pregnant and planning to have CVS done at fetal medicine centre.

Did you request the Prof do your CVS? or does he do them all himself?

thanks and congrats that everything is ok with your baby girl

hotmama · 23/05/2008 20:51

Lady T - so glad that everything is O.K. Been thinking of you all day.

Wow to them telling you the sex straight away. With both my CVS's I was told a provisional result and then confirmed a few weeks later - I had to wait to find out the sex then.

So glad for you - cross your fingers for me in 2 weeks!

(big smile emoticon)

mrslurkalot · 26/05/2008 00:23

Hello LadyT! I am so thrilled for you. I know exactly what you mean about not feeling able to celebrate, I couldn't either, I also found it really hard to come down from the stress for a few days. I do hope, however, that you can now relax a bit, enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and look forward to the arrival of your little girl!!!! xxxxxxx

Mitigger · 26/05/2008 09:33

Hi Heron,

I had my CVS done recently and I think there is a woman who does CVS at the FMC on Fridays. Maybe not every Friday - I'm not sure - you could ask. The Prof. does them on Wednesdays - and he is always running late... (I had mine at 11.30pm). The woman (I cannot remember her name) did one of my scans for a previous baby and was really good. Hope this helps.

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LadyThompson · 26/05/2008 17:08

Hi Heron, you say you are newly pregnant - are you sure you will need a CVS? They are only advised in certain circumstances (the results of my scan counted as very high risk, and I am 36). I thought the Prof did all of them - I was told they were only available on Wednesdays and he definitely does all of them then, bless him. The FMC will know - they have a website and they are dead helpful with queries. Good luck. Hotmama - please let us know how you go in a fortnight. And thanks again ladies - calming down now. My only problem now is a burning addiction to Mumsnet...

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