Nausea and tiredness leaving me bedridden

[DMBZ1985]

Hello! I'm 9weeks and needing a bit of reassurance, and positive stories. I feel nauseous for most of the day and night. I'm not vomiting, but feeling sick constantly. I'm a freelancer and I've not got a job at the moment. I'm finding I can only deal with the nausea by lying down and watching tv. And eating carbs!
It's having a bad effect on my mental health. I'm rarely seeing friends or family, as I said I'm not working (which I'm relieved about but also frightened of not working for too long). I'm not exercising except for walking my dog in the morning. I've been pretty much in bed for a week, and it's making me feel so down.

Mom's who have been through this; should I push myself to get out and about? I think if I were to get on the tube for example, I'd be sick. And I'm so oppressively tired. Staying home is so tempting. But I'm struggling mentally; I feel bad for being bed bound, I'm wandering if I'm just being a bit of a weakling?! Terrible word! I just see that so many women do full time jobs or look after toddlers with morning sickness. I don't know how they do it. I know I'm incredibly lucky in a way. Do I just own it until the nausea passes?
Sorry about the essay! I'm feeling so lost and lonely.

I was so nauseas I was bedridden for 2 weeks whilst pregnant with DD
I had to stay at my parents in a dark room for that time whilst they looked after DS

it passed after 2 weeks. But I was nauseous before and after that but functioning.

it does pass after the first trimester

I wouldn’t suggest forcing yourself to go out and about at all

I’d suggest lying in bed or on the sofa watching lots of box sets till it passes.

i had to take time off work. I was no good to anyone. I just couldn’t move or eat or drink.

just rest and keep hydrated and eat what you can

it'll pass.

However if you get really bad call your GP or midwife.

Rest, sleep, hydrate and eat as best you can. Don't force anything. It can be a really crappy time. I'm currently struggling to leave the house too - making it to the corner shop is as far as I've got in days!

I’ve struggled badly this time round (currently pregnant with baby no.2) speak to your GP they can prescribe anti-sickness tablets, it didn’t take my nausea away completely but did suppress it a bit, so I could function more. I still have days where I need them now at 15 weeks but they did help.

Rest when you can and don’t feel guilty.

Thank you so much- these replies have been really comforting and helped me so much. I think some of these symptoms have come as a bit of a shock to me. I hope you both who are in the middle of it feel better soon xx

9-10 weeks ish is generally the worst according to studies. So hopefully you’ll start feeling better soon!

Your body is telling you what it needs…. Rest. Don’t feel bad or guilty about it, you are growing another person! Your second trimester should bring you lots of energy and motivation. Is your partner understanding?

Get some medication! There seems to be this narrative that you should just push through which is not helpful for anyone when there are safe drugs you can take. Granted they don't always work for everyone but worth a try.

I was the same - not being sick but always nauseous - and Xonvea helped a lot. Just as well as this time round the sickness didn't go away until I was 16 weeks.

@Favouritefruits yes he's been an absolute saving grace in this whole thing! I think that's right, I need to give myself license to listen to my body. And @DaveWattsyes I think I'll go to the doctor on Monday if I'm still bedridden, as I think it's really affecting my mental health and that's not good. Honestly helps getting all your comments. I realised part of it is that so few people know I'm pregnant, I told my best friend the other day as I realised I need the support and that outweighs the fear of miscarriage

@ShesTheAlbatross that's what I've read, I'm so hoping this is the peak of it!

Just wanted to update this thread to say I felt a bit better at 11 weeks and almost totally better by 12.. I'm now able to work almost normally. I'm not counting my chickens as I know it could come back, but hopefully this provides reassurance to anyone suffering and reading through this thread,as I know it really helped me to read positive stories Xxx

I am 10 weeks today and I was either sick or tired, no in between really. Was so sick that I burst a capillary in my eye. Zombie lady for two weeks. It's important to look after yourself.