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AngelLion · 24/05/2025 18:36

Hi everyone, I've just found out that I'm pregnant. I'm 37, married and we have been low-key trying. But now that it's happened I feel so scared and sad. I also feel very guilty and not normal for feeling like this. Did anyone else go through this?

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Lulu89x · 24/05/2025 18:45

It’s a huge change and will come with a lot of emotions. What are you afraid of?

Marmite1992 · 24/05/2025 18:51

Yes totally normal. I had a miscarriage and then was trying so much desperately wanting to be pregnant. When I got the positive test I was shocked and felt really worried and was like what have I done?!
It's a really weird thing and now I'm happily heavily pregnant! All your emotions are normal and will likely change throughout.
Congratulations!

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AngelLion · 24/05/2025 18:52

The biggest fear is my life changing so much. I feel really selfish but I like my life as it is. I think I'm just overwhelmed but I feel guilty for not being excited.

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Meadowfinch · 24/05/2025 19:03

YANBU. I felt the same OP.

I had a lovely life and was unsure how I would feel. It's an unnerving thing but sometimes you have to take a leap in the dark. Your life will change, certainly but that doesn't mean it won't be worse.

My ds is the best, most fun thing I have ever done even though I've done most of it alone. You'll have help.

Congratulations. xx

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AngelLion · 24/05/2025 19:24

Thank you Meadowfinch. It's lovely to hear someone felt similar and you love being a mother now.

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sheknowsitstoolate · 24/05/2025 19:25

I felt the same

Lulu89x · 24/05/2025 20:33

AngelLion · 24/05/2025 18:52

The biggest fear is my life changing so much. I feel really selfish but I like my life as it is. I think I'm just overwhelmed but I feel guilty for not being excited.

I understand. I am feeling the same. My baby was not planned and this isn’t really the way I wanted to conceive but it’s happened now. I have days where I get very sad and stressed about how much freedom I will lose. On the other hand, I feel v grateful n blessed that I’m able to conceive. I think it’s v Normal for most people to have these thoughts. Hopefully it’ll all change once baby is here

ZebraPrintt · 24/05/2025 21:08

AngelLion · 24/05/2025 18:52

The biggest fear is my life changing so much. I feel really selfish but I like my life as it is. I think I'm just overwhelmed but I feel guilty for not being excited.

I felt the same. It's the unknown. But my son's 9 months now and honestly don't know what I ever did before him. He's my world and changed my life for the better. I'm sure you'll feel the same but for me none of it felt real until he was in my arms, it'll come :)

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AngelLion · 25/05/2025 11:53

Thank you for the replies. I guess this is going to be some ride!

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