IVF embryo transfer yesterday- stressed!

[BrendaSouleyman]

Hello everyone, I am a little stressed after my IVF embryo transfer at a clinic in Madrid. This was the third embryo transfer, the last two (one in October 2024 and one in February of this year) didn't take.
Feel free to titter behind your screens if you think I'm being silly, but I'm stressed for a couple of reasons: I got on a bus, paid for my ticket, and the paper ticket came out of the printer while the bus started moving. I'm paranoid about moving on a moving bus: I've never fallen that way or anything, but I always feel unstable. I indicated to the bus driver in mediocre that Spanish that I was aware the ticket had printed but he told me I had to take it straight away and knocked on the glass to make me get it. Stress hormones flooded by body and I was so angry. I'm sure that, which would be a non-even to most people, must make me sound like a crazy woman, but juddering lifts, walking on moving buses, turbulence on a plane- make me feel so anxious and then I tell myself "I mustn't get stressed, it's the worst thing for an embryo!" and that just makes it worse.

Secondly, I had diarrhea yesterday. Not non-stop, and I could so out, but I'm worried that means something has gone wrong.

I'm grateful to anyone who can advise or give an informed opinion.

I don’t think stress makes a difference honestly. I found out I had spent a whole day at work sitting next to someone with Covid a couple of days before my embryo transfer and spent the day crying . The night before the transfer my son banged his head off the table and ended up going into a&e for stitches so that really stressed me out as well. I also worked the whole time so was exposed to all the usual stress from that. I’ve heard people say if stress stopped implantation no one would get pregnant and I think it’s true, people get pregnant in war zones and everything.
I don’t think you are being silly, I was overthinking everything during that time. I think it’s normal because you are so emotionally invested in it. Diarrhoea could be nerves or the medication perhaps. When is your test day ?

The clinic say I can do the pregnancy test ten days later- on 26 May. Quite honestly, I usually give it a day or two more, as I feel I will accept the result more on day 12. Day 10 just feels too soon to know for sure. So I'll do the test on either Tuesday 27 or Wednesday 28 May.

If things like standing on a bus stopped conception, the human race wouldn’t continue. And slightly dodgy tummies happen the world over.

It is a stressful time, so cut yourself some slack. But nothing you describe will make the slighted difference to the outcome.

Thank you @PlanetOtter and @TheIceBear - very animal-themed names 😁
I appreciate you both taking the time to reply to me.
I've often told myself that no baby would ever be born if taking a bus, passing through airport security, or accidentally drinking a caffinated coffee were major contributors to miscarriage, but I'm 43, single and have had two embryo transfers before, so I'm finding it hard to deal with all this on my own. Thank you again.

I've got pregnant 3 times through ivf and with the latest I came straight home to be jumped on by 3 yr old boy twins and a 9m old. A juddery bus won't hurt you at all in comparison. I know it's stressful and easy to keep questioning everything but don't blame yourself for things like that, if it doesn't work then the last thing you want to do is feel really guilty for every little thing you did rather than knowing it's all just a probability game

@Jennifer48 well I hope this one sticks. Have you tested the embryos ?

@TheIceBear yes the embryos have gone through what is called PGT and are euploid, according to the clinic in Madrid. The doctor there estimated that there's a 50-60% chance of success. The gynaecologist I consulted privately, however, says the clinic has over estimated the chance of success. After having looked at the biopsies of the embryos implanted, he estimated the transfers done so far had a 30-35% chance of success.

Oh bless you. I've done every combination of panic with my 7 transfers! Worrying about everything is par for the course, it's horrible.

My clinic doctor was extremely clear that nothing you can do will change the outcome of whether it works or not. We did one non-PGT-A cycle that worked, followed by 5 that didn't. Clinic kept telling me it was most likely the embryos just werent viable. So then did a PGT-A cycle.....
that failed and I lost my ever-loving shit. Convinced myself everything from sleeping with the window open to lifting my daughter to not being polite to someone at work had caused the failure now it wouldn't be the embryo. Next PGT-A tested embryo worked (so far, now 20 weeks) - and that was the cycle where I was super unwell before transfer, then got a Bartholin's cyst, my husband went away for a week after transfer so I had to test on my own, I tripped over a kerb and landed with a thump... etc etc. There REALLY is no logic to it all. Which sucks - because if we could jinx it for ourselves positively, we all would!

Wishing you all the best x

Thank you, Quietest I am single and my family don't even know about the transfer, so I do feel quite alone. I appreciate all the kind words and helpful advice.

We're here if you want to post about it x

@Jennifer48 I think it’s good to know that the embryo is euploid anyway as they have a better success rate. Wishing you lots of luck

Thank you all