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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Early pregnancy / miscarriage? No heartbeat?

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GreatPearlOrca · 15/05/2025 09:49

Hi there , I couldn’t find my last post to add this too, I recently found out I was pregnant and go the green light to go ahead with this after some health issues , I got all my appointments through, I had a bladder scan for my bladder and they says they could see baby etc but they shouldn’t be speaking about it as it’s not in their job role to do this, I was thinking I was about 6 weeks at the time, and think I could be 8 weeks just now, but we are going on date of my last period but I have says to them my periods are not regular and all over the place and the same with my cycle they are different each month but they are still going with my last period even though it had come earlier than usual too, I started to get light brown discharge nothing too much wasn’t I’ve pants etc it was just when I was wiping, I also started to feel abit normal like I wasn’t pregnant as such, but still get nauseous and very bloated , tiredness too, so I called up to enquire this and she had says cause I’m on aspirin too this could be the reason I’m getting discharge etc and things are stretching etc and thought was best to get checked , so we went yesterday to get checked and there was 3 of them in the room and a man doing the ultrasound but as he come in he was like so you have been getting a lot of bleeding and spotting, I says no bleeding and he went well brown discharge and I says yeah but it’s not a lot and only when I wipe, then he went on to do ultrasound and says just as I thought nothing there , and I told him at my bladder scan they could see the baby and he says yeah but it’s different to this ,then he says to me do you know about a double womb and I says no never heard of it and says that’s what you have , ( I have already had to health pregnancies and never been told about my womb being double) then he says I had to have a transvaginal ultrasound to double check, so we did this and he was like I can see baby but there is no heartbeat so think ur pregnancy has ended, in which he was still going by the dates I thought and never corrected me if wrong or right, so he took measurements etc I got dressed the lady come to speak to us saying it’s more likely a miscarriage but says baby has grown to the right size and possibly still growing 🤔 as he says he thinks heart stopped at 6 weeks but baby measures 8 weeks just a little bit under , she told me what will happen next and says I will more than likely miscarry the baby , says I can keep the tissue etc and they can put in a memory thing for me and they can give me pictures of the baby if I wanted them, then told me I may need to take tablets too to get things going, but also says I’ve to go back in 6 days for another scan to double check baby incase there will be a heartbeat , I was wondering anyone experienced this before at all, I’ve never went through anything like that before and I’m hoping they have it wrong but I need to think towards miscarriage and not get hopes up, I’m in no pain etc please pray for me and my baby , but if it’s not meant to be it’s not meant to be , ( I also have a prolapsed bladder in which my uterus is tilted too and had read this can be difficult for ultrasound etc and I don’t know why they have never picked up about double womb until now, I find it very strange and I feel something isn’t right about that ) any advice or opinions will be greatly appreciated thank you xx

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Superscientist · 15/05/2025 10:57

I had two miscarriages last year. The first one I just started bleeding at 10 weeks no pain or anything to make me think it would be anything other than a normal pregnancy. Off sick with hyperemesis so plenty of symptoms

The second miscarriage I had a scan at 7.5 weeks with a heartbeat but measuring 10 days behind. Scanned again 2 weeks later a little growth but not 2 weeks growth but now no heartbeat. A scan to confirm no heartbeat a week later and I naturally passed the pregnancy the next day. Again if it hadn't been for the scans I wouldn't have known anything was wrong and I again was off sick with hyperemesis. The pregnancy I passed in both pregnancies was similar so I don't think the first pregnancy progressed properly and I had actually lost it before I miscarried. All 3 of the scans had to be internal exams to get any reliable images so it's possible whilst the bladder scan showed the pregnancy it might not have been sufficient to give indication of the health of the pregnancy.

I would be cautiously optimistic and hope for the best but also be prepared that there's a reasonable chance that this pregnancy isn't going to last. If it is some hope though, I conceived immediately after my second loss before my period returned and I'm now 20 weeks pregnant!

GreatPearlOrca · 15/05/2025 11:46

Aww thank you for sharing, sorry to hear this, just strange as I feel Im getting pregnancy symptoms back,and I think cause I have never went through this my mind is overthinking everything , i will really just need to wait and see what happens next week at the next scan thanks xx

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Superscientist · 15/05/2025 13:28

GreatPearlOrca · 15/05/2025 11:46

Aww thank you for sharing, sorry to hear this, just strange as I feel Im getting pregnancy symptoms back,and I think cause I have never went through this my mind is overthinking everything , i will really just need to wait and see what happens next week at the next scan thanks xx

With my first miscarriage I was still struggling with sickness and nausea for a week after I miscarried. I asked at the epu and they said it was because my hormones were still high. It felt particularly cruel of my body!

Good luck next week x

GreatPearlOrca · 15/05/2025 14:30

Thank you, I just don’t understand that they are now saying I have 2 wombs , and I’ve never been told this before , I’ve had 2 pregnancies , bladder scans, kidney scans , pelvic examinations etc and not once have they seen this or told me this

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GreatPearlOrca · 18/05/2025 19:57

So today I sadly started bleeding, and having just little cramping, I’m sure it’s definitely a miscarriage , has anyone had to take misoprostol to help get things moving as I know they will ask me about this Thank you

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Superscientist · 18/05/2025 20:23

I'm sorry you are bleeding although do know that not all bleeding means miscarriage. Thinking of you.

With my second miscarriage I was going to accept the tablets to bring it along after the scan to confirm the loss but I started spotting the night before the scan. In my first miscarriage I had a scan about 36h after the spotting started and I passed the pregnancy in that time. So with the second loss I asked if I could give my body a couple of days to pass the pregnancy before taking the pills. They phoned me two days later to see how i had got on and as expected I had had very heavy bleeding the evening after the scan for about an hour when i passed the pregnancy. The epu were happy I had passed the pregnancy and advised that I took a pregnancy test in 3 weeks and to get in touch if it was positive or if I had any concerns in the meantime.

It doesn't have to be an immediate yes /no and if you decide it's not for you, you can change your mind.

GreatPearlOrca · 19/05/2025 18:55

yeah Sorry for ur losses too, so I started bleeding yesterday and it was worse today with very Light cramping as if on period but not that bad as I was able to still do things, I went for a bath and then went to toilet then 2 big blobs come out and I felt it coming out, but I felt fine after this, but my tummy felt as if it had bloated right up straight after, I have no pain at all and the bleeding is starting to stop, I called the ward number I was given and I explain I had scan last week and there was no heartbeat and says I think I have miscarried and he says and how do you think it’s a miscarriage and I says well I think it is and he was asking if it was clots , tissue or something else I was like I really don’t know as it’s never happened to me before but says he will get someone to call me back , I’ve made dinner did some washing , feel back to my self but with abit of a bump / bloated tummy 🤔

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Superscientist · 19/05/2025 19:51

I'm sorry you are experiencing this.
Apologies for the tmi but when I passed my pregnancies I just had to sit on the toilet for 20 minutes a few times over an hour with cramping and then afterwards it felt easier.
The first time I presented at a and e as I'd been directed to do this is the bleeding became very heavy. They checked my HCG and haemoglobin. They let me go home and they said they'd contact me if the bloods came back that I had lost too much blood. My observations came back ok so they said it's unlikely. I had a scan at the epu the next day already booked. Unfortunately that scan showed no sign of pregnancy. They repeated my HCG and it had halved in 16h.
The next pregnancy passed in a similar way but I didn't feel the need to go to a and e as the very heavy bleeding passed quite quickly

DefinitelyMaybe92 · 19/05/2025 19:58

Yes lovey, it’s called a missed miscarriage. I had this at about 10 weeks with my first pregnancy - found out there was no heartbeat at the first scan. They said it looked like the foetus had stopped developing at about 7/8 weeks. They made me wait a week then repeated the scan to double check the pregnancy was definitely not viable. I then tried two rounds of misoprostol pessaries a couple of weeks apart (each time I passed “stuff” but not the sack and contents) before finally having a D&C to remove the pregnancy. I’m so sorry this has happened. Try and look after yourself as much as possible. I hope you have a good support network around you. X

edit: editing to say that they can try for “expectant management” before you go for the misoprostol or D&C, which is basically a “wait and see” if you pass it naturally, but they just can’t let that go on too long as you run the risk of infections, sepsis etc. The medical professionals can advise you on this. In any case, you’ll need to take pregnancy tests to check that your HCG levels are coming down.

GreatPearlOrca · 19/05/2025 21:55

Thank you very much for ur support and advice I’ve never went through this before my first time, no one called me back from hospital too, but I have a call back tomorrow from pregnancy and birth support they says they will call me after 6 days since my scan to see how things were going , I will explain things to them but I would still like a scan to make sure everything is going the right way , thank you xxx

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GreatPearlOrca · 20/05/2025 12:05

Hey I thought I would update, I got. A call from pregnancy birth and support and they have says to me what I have described to them sounds like a miscarriage and that they don’t need to see me or that and that I’ve to take a pregnancy test in 3 weeks from today and if it’s positive need to call them back, she also says she can put the scan photo of baby in a memory box for me to go and collect tomorrow , I had the 2 big bits what passed do people just flush them away or do they bury them or anything xxxx

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Superscientist · 20/05/2025 12:46

I'm sorry for your loss.
In my last loss I couldn't wait for 3 weeks and took one after 2 weeks and it was reassuring to see a faint line, with my first loss the pregnancy hadn't been observed so they monitored my HCG each week to check it wasn't a pregnancy of unknown location, it was highly unlikely as I should have been 10 weeks by 2 weeks post loss my levels were quite low but took another week to get low enough to be negative on a pregnancy test.
The photo/memory box and what to do with the bits that pass are quite personal decisions.
I didn't collect anything so it was just flushed, that was right for me. For another person burying it and getting a plant to go on top might be right for them. Even if you decide to not keep the tissue you could buy something to acknowledge the lost pregnancy, a plant or figurines or something meaningful for you.

GreatPearlOrca · 20/05/2025 21:18

Thank you so much for ur support and advice it has been really helpful to me xxx

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