Finally realising !

[TheThreeMiracles]

It comes to something when your ‘d’ p will phone his mum ( who has caused so many problems for us as a couple ) to see how her day and house move is going yet doesn’t phone or text to see how my midwife appointment went this morning !
he had text but nothing about how I am or how midwife went !
feeling very hurt but also realising that I’m not that important to him !

he’s done very very little to help me prepare for our baby yet goes and helps his mum who wouldn’t go out her way for him ! Ahhhh just a rant really !

Did he know what time the appointment was? I used to just update once I had came out. If he’s done little to help prepare, did he want the baby?

Yes he knew ( I was meant to have a swab done so ran a bath this morning and joked with him that I wanted to make sure I was clean ) I normally bath in the evening, he also knew I was having worries because I’ve been incredibly thirsty the past few days and I’d phoned midwife and they said to wait until my appointment today which I discussed with him too xx

And yes he definitely wanted baby! Xx

I probably sound really stupid but I’m really hurt by it today xx

How do you know he phoned his mum whilst not texting you? Sometimes things slip peoples minds... You seem to dislike your MIL it seems? How long has it been since your app? He could have just been waiting for you to come home and speak to you then?

Mil doesn’t like me and has made it very clear, I’ve really tried to be friends with her over a few years.
he told me he spoke to his mum at lunch ( a few weeks back ) it’s been 3 hours so he’s had plenty of time to even text and ask how it went xx

Maybe try to take your feelings towards your MIL out of it.. you can always text him and let him know how it went :)

@Lulu89x it’s not really about my feelings towards his mum it’s more to do with realising how little I mean to him when you’re supposed to feel loved and cared for.

I had a midwife apptmt this morning too @TheThreeMiracles - you can tell me how it went if you'd like 😄

I’m not sure my husband ever remembered an appt and he didn’t have much interest in preparing for a baby before it arrived either. We discussed it and it was just his way of navigating his worries about the impending change. He’s an amazing dad. Are there other issues in your relationship?

@ClaySquish thank you!! It was lovely heard baby’s heart beat measured my big bump and gave reassurance it was perfect ! How was your midwife appointment? How far along are you?

partner said he completely forgot ! X

That sounds lush! Love hearing the heartbeat so much. I'm glad it went well for you.
I'm 38 + 4 - all went well and just waiting for something to happen now. Baby's bum is sticking up on the right of my bump and can feel her wriggling about 🥰

Tbh my husband just waited for me to tell him about apps and obviously if there were any corcerns i'd have been in touch.

Presumably he wouldn't be seeing his mum at your home that day so would need to call?

Congratulations on your pregnancy.
Presumably your DH will be seeing you at home this evening and you can talk about it then?

OK stop grudges and just discuss your feelings with him. This really doesn't bode well for when baby is actually here. And please get married for your financial security.

Calling his mum at lunch is just his routine/habit. It also means he’s free to be with you in the evening. He will be waiting to get home to have a proper conversation with you. I’ve probably done similar.