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Who's the father?

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Lucybe1990 · 08/05/2025 17:48

Please I really need some advice because I feel I'm going crazy. My last period was the 6th-10th Feb (this was 25day cycle and usually I'm 27-30days) I had sex with A on the 12th Feb and sex with B on the 22nd feb. I am pregnant and my midwife said due date 13th Nov(obviously going from my last period) had a scan and I'm measuring at 12 weeks tomorrow (9th may) and that im due 21st nov .Would anyone share Thier opinion on who the father is please. I need some reassurance. Thank you.

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JudgeyJudie · 08/05/2025 17:50

B. Without a doubt. But who would you rather it be?

MyUmberSeal · 08/05/2025 17:52

Having looked again at your OP, it could be either. Sorry that didn’t help. If you ovulated on day 11or 12, it could easily be candidate A. But if you ovulated in day 14-15 if could be candidate B.

What answer are you hoping for?

GlidingSquirrels · 08/05/2025 17:52

I was due on the 11th Nov after conceiving on the 15th. I would assume the earlier date. However if you ovulate the day you had sex, then implanted quickly the second date is also very possible.
Sperm lives for up to 5 days, and implantation can take from 6-12 days, and dating scan estimates can be out by 3 days either direction, so it's really too close to tell without a dna test.

timeformetolose · 08/05/2025 17:55

my cycle meant I was fertile day 1 after my period ends, do you know when you ovulated?

GlidingSquirrels · 08/05/2025 17:56

Actually using a conception calculator it looks like the second is more likely. However there's the risk that you ovulated on the 16th, sperm was there ready, then took 12 days to implant and it would still fit. Equally you could have ovulated the day of or just after the 22nd and then implanted quickly, and the 3 day error margin of the dating scan makes it impossible to even narrow down really.

Worried8263839 · 08/05/2025 17:58

I don’t know how the first poster can be so sure it is B. I ovulated 3 days after my period, conceived on 18th, period ended on 15th.

OatFlatWhiteForMe · 08/05/2025 18:04

B seems more likely but there is a credible chance it could be either.

Are you ok @Lucybe1990?

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Lucybe1990 · 08/05/2025 18:52

Thank you for your replies. I would love it to be B's child. I do not know when I ovulated. I don't know what to do. Just sick and numb at the moment, not enjoying pregnancy at all with this hanging over me.

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Lulu89x · 08/05/2025 19:04

Worried8263839 · 08/05/2025 17:58

I don’t know how the first poster can be so sure it is B. I ovulated 3 days after my period, conceived on 18th, period ended on 15th.

Agreed. I’m now 28 weeks pregnant and I conceived three days after my period ended!

@Lucybe1990 do both men know about each other? Unfortunately there’s no way of knowing unless you do a DNA test..

justkeepswimingswiming · 08/05/2025 19:11

It Could well & truly be As. You’ll need to do a DNA test when the baby is born.

minnienono · 08/05/2025 19:12

You cannot know for certain, I conceived on my final day of my period! (Certain as no other sex)

RareGoalsVerge · 08/05/2025 19:14

Biologically it could be either, but B is more likely. Do they know about each other and were either of them under the impression that your relationship was exclusive? Who would make a better dad?

BeBusyShaker · 16/11/2025 03:17

I hope b who you want to be the father also wants to be the father. DNA can force a man to pay support. I hope b doesn't care about paternity because it doesn't matter right? Not in the context of who is providing protecting and loving the innocent child. Best wishes

DarkNanny · 16/11/2025 03:29

Making a better Dad doesn’t change who might be the Father we know lots of children are raised by men who are not genetically related to them without them knowing
it’s unfair to everyone to live a lie

breezyyy · 16/11/2025 03:33

DarkNanny · 16/11/2025 03:29

Making a better Dad doesn’t change who might be the Father we know lots of children are raised by men who are not genetically related to them without them knowing
it’s unfair to everyone to live a lie

I agree, are posters seriously suggesting the OP makes a preference regardless?

workingitout1234 · 16/11/2025 03:37

A based on personal experience of when I conceived

LondonGirrrrl · 16/11/2025 05:30

After years of fertility tracking and reading about fertility I’d initially say A (12th) because you had sex well before ovulation but sperm can live on for 6 or so days. Ovulation could have been possibly been around the 17th maybe with a shorter cycle or the 20th with a 28 day cycle. However the fact they have changed your date to a later date suggests it’s possibly B (22nd).

LondonGirrrrl · 16/11/2025 05:36

You could always be honest with both blokes and explain you’ll need a DNA test once born as you’re unsure.

Ihavepaidalotforthisstory · 16/11/2025 05:41

As others have said it will depend on when you ovulated. Both men could be the Father and the only way to know would be through a DNA test. I ovulated the day after my period with my third child, it isn't typical but it can and does happen. Best wishes.

CulinaryPumpkin · 16/11/2025 07:52

I think it's more likely to be B based on those dates, but A is also a possibility. You would need a DNA test to be sure.

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