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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

single during pregnancy

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Lookingforadvice101234 · 07/05/2025 23:25

Hi,
my partner split up with me 12 weeks into my pregnancy. He has said that he wants to be involved with the baby, I have posted about this before.
However, currently we are going through a period of no-contact (at my request) as some of the texts etc I was getting from him were very toxic, causing me a lot of stress which I do not need whilst being heavily pregnant. Of course I have kept him informed of anything to do with the pregnancy when needed.
I have removed him off social media, however my friends still have him and one told me today that he is constantly posting pictures of him on nights out with girls etc, planning camping trips, basically seeming like he's living his best life. A major part of us breaking up was the fact that he did not want his life to change as a result of the pregnancy; he wanted to keep living his life going out etc and not have to look after a pregnant woman; I suffered very badly with morning sickness in my first trimester and spent most of it (aside from when I could go to work) in bed.
I am struggling with this- I feel I have made so many sacrifices (as every pregnant woman does), my life has completely changed and honestly I have been extremely lonely going through pregnancy without a partner, meanwhile his life has not changed at all and then he gets to swoop in when the baby is born. He has not had to deal with any of the hard parts of pregnancy or preparing for the baby. I am so excited to have a baby; I would make these sacrifices time and time again and I know I get to experience the lovely parts of pregnancy such as feeling my baby move but there has been very tough times also.
I just wondered if anybody had navigated a similar situation and had any advice?

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WhatHaveIJustRead · 08/05/2025 00:31

Why do you think he gets to swoop in when the baby is born? Why are you updating him on the pregnancy? Do you actually want these things?

how long were you together? Do you have a relationship with his family?

Lulu89x · 08/05/2025 07:07

People can only do to you what you allow.

He split up with you early into your pregnancy - this tells you all you need to know about him and his care / intentions towards you.

You will only hurt yourself if you hold onto hope that he’s suddenly going to be a good and present father to your child when he’s been a shit partner to you.

Tell your friends you do not need updates on what he’s doing - what is this going to achieve? Other than make you sad/bitter/jealous. You can’t force him to be on the same page as you.

Focus on yourself and your baby and do not hold onto hope that he’ll suddenly be a decent person.

Sorry you are going through this. I am doing it alone and after I accepted the fact that my child’s father isn’t the person I thought he was, my life became more peaceful.

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