Hate this feeling

[Anon4224]

this is cycle 3 of TTC. One chemical back in feb reinforced how badly I want this. I am currently sat here 5 days before my period knowing this month I’m most definitely out. I have a temporarily long distance relationship at the moment and have only been able to have sex on cycle day 9 this month. There’s no way I’ll be pregnant. I have been testing 8 days before my period and have been getting negatives. I know that’s early but for cycle day 9 sex I reckon I’d have shown a positive test now. I give up I am so sad I am longing for those two lines. It hurts.

Over a year of trying, went to the doctor to see if we had any issues, had an appointment at the hospital and had just had my confirmation letter sent to me when we received our very first positive result. I get the feeling - it was so disheartening for me at first. Honestly after a while, I stopped testing and just started to think whatevers meant to be will happen the way it should and when it should. Definitely easier to say to think this way than it is to actually think it, but it's the only thing that really got me through it. I tested 5 days before I was due, I was just suspicious, it was the first time I tested in months, and it came back negative, or very very faint if there was a line. But I still had a strange feeling, so I tested again 2 days later and up popped a second line. Wishing you all the best

You're giving up after 3 cycles? It took me 3 years, 4 surgeries and 7 IVF cycles to conceive....

I think you need to build a bit of stamina and recognise that you have about a 30% chance each cycle, assuming no medical issues with either of you and obviously appropriately timed sex!

Having a long distance/time restricted relationship is a complete pain but perhaps on those months, just don't test at all. You know you're not going to conceive on day 9 so don't give yourself the heartbreak of testing every day and seeing negatives that were inevitable.

This is a process. Don't give up.

You’ve just got to try and be positive and know that it will happen one day. Like you said, your relationship is only temporarily long distance so when you are able to be properly together your chances will be higher ;)
It’s not easy getting pregnant. Try and just focus on preparing your body for pregnancy… exercise, eat healthy, take a pre conception vitamin. You are so early into your TTC journey, it is a journey. So do your best to stay positive, relaxed, mentally and physically healthy <3 x

It is really hard after a loss TTC as each month can bring heart break. I got so stressed after my MC my usual 28 cycle went to 23 days and it was all the stress that delayed me getting pregnant. Took 7 months and now 24 weeks pregnant. If I could go back in time I would just try to live my life and not obsess as it doesn't help anything and it really is a 30% chance each month. Good luck and don't trawl Mumsnet it never helps

Sorry to hear about your loss. However you need to put things into perspective. It’s only been 3 months, you’re also testing 8 days for a missed period which of course you’re going to be negative anyway? As hard as it is don’t set your self up for failure testing so early and realise 3 months really isn’t a lot