2 miscarriages in 4 months - absolutely heartbroken 💔

[Matty91]

What the title says, just looking for a bit of hand-holding. Currently trying to conceive baby no.1 and had a heartbreaking miscarriage earlier this year at nearly 10 weeks. Had to have surgery because bubba didn’t want to come out. Got a positive test a week ago and we were absolutely over the moon and couldn’t believe our luck - just to wake up to a very heavy bleed yesterday 💔

Cherry on top is that our local EPU couldn’t see the pregnancy on scan which means could be 1) miscarriage (most likely) 2) ectopic or 3) viable pregnancy (but the heavy bleed suggests otherwise).

I’m in my 20s, no drugs, no smoking etc. Just absolutely gutted and so much respect to everyone who has been struggling with infertility for years! Sending love and baby dust to everyone who needs it ✨✨✨

Sorry you're going through this OP. Were you taking baby aspirin and progesterone? If not, that would probably be the next thing to try

Thanks for your reply. No I‘m not - do you have to take this under GP supervision or do I just go to a pharmacy?

No advice OP, just a handhold and to say as someone who had miscarriages, I now have two beautiful little girls - don’t give up.

No advice OP, just huge love. I had four miscarriages in a short space of time. I now have a beautiful three year old. Don’t give up ❤️

I wouldn't take anything without medical advice. I think there is some evidence against aspirin for certain people, so maybe speak with someone first.

I've been where you are, OP, and it's devastating. The odds are so high that you'll have a successful pregnancy next time, but I know that doesn't mean much when you are in the middle of it xx

Im so sorry OP. I had a still birth then 2 mmc in the space of 9 months. Its hard when its all so close together. Its like you only just process one and the next is happening.

I'd recommended speaking to your doctor at least. Some places will refer you to a miscarraige clinic after 2 miscarraige, some places it is 3 or 4 before referral. My doctor ran alot of tests while i was waiting for my referral. It took a long time. It helped rule out some easy to fix issues.

Hi OP, im so sorry for your losses.
Ive had 3 moscarriages in 16 months, trying to have my first child all at the 6 week mark.
I went to the recurrent miscarriage clinic after nearly a year! (Nhs wait times are shocking) they told me if i was to get pregnant again i would need progesterone.
A week after going to the miscarriage clinic, i actually found out i was pregnant! I had to fight a little for progesterone, i fought and cried and screamed at every single medical professional who i was chatting to and i finally got them after one of them admitted they felt sorry for me after i told them 'how many miscarriages is a woman meant to suffer before she gets some real help' im now 11 weeks and 3 days pregnant and we saw baby with a heartbeat at 7 weeks and 3 days. First baby out of 4 with a heartbeat!

Moral? Dont give up, fight for what you need, you've had 2 miscarriages theres no reason why you shouldnt have progesterone. Good luck in the future x

Thank you everyone for the handholding and sharing of your own stories - I‘m so grateful, makes me feel less alone ❤️❤️❤️

@SJM1988 so sorry for your losses, especially the still birth, can’t even imagine what you are going through 😢 Thank you for the referral tip, I‘ve made a telephone appointment with GP 🙏🏻

@LER2023 I‘m so sorry for your many losses, life is so unfair. Well done for fighting for what you and your baby deserve. I have EVERYTHING crossed for you that this baby makes it earth-side 🌈. Will ask EPU and GP about progesterone.

So sorry to hear of your losses OP 😢

Im just checking that your partner is doing all he can health wise to prevent miscarriage; eating healthily, exercising, sleeping well, not drinking or smoking etc because research shows that it’s the quality of the sperm which can cause a miscarriage.

Im sure he is, but it’s worth checking, you seem to be doing everything you possibly can to have a healthy pregnancy, so it might be that his lifestyle has room for improvement 🤷‍♀️

@nopineapplepizza interesting point, I didn’t know that about the sperm. Sadly no obvious fix there either - same age, same lifestyle etc

I had two miscarriages in 6 months last year. The last one was in December. I conceived straight away before my period and I'm now 19 weeks pregnant!
My epu offers support after one miscarriage and in this pregnancy I had progesterone prescribed after a successful scan at 8 weeks.

A good prenatal vitamin for you. A good diet for you and partner. After my second loss I did have a look at my diet and things that are good for pregnancy. I identified my diet as being low in eggs and fish both of which can be beneficial but my daughter is allergic to both so not a big part of my diet. I added them into my lunches so I could eat them safely. It conceived before the change could have made a difference so for me but my thoughts were I like eggs and fish, they are a good part of a normal diet it might not help but unlikely to hurt. It helped me feel a little in control of my body when I had been feeling the opposite.
After my first miscarriage I took up running again and it helped my mind to feel my body had strength and to see my body as capable. I still lost the next pregnancy but that feeling of having a strong capable body has continued and improved my thoughts towards my body and it's loss.

Remember to take care of your mental and emotional health. I felt better feeling I could do something and reframing my view of my body but chose very small, achievable tweaks to life in order to do so.

@Superscientist thanks for your reply and congratulations on your pregnancy with your rainbow baby! 🌈👏

So nice to hear about your journey and the impact of running. I do spin 3x a week and I agree it makes me feel so strong and powerful and so good for mental wellbeing having a sport that gives you that feeling!

I have an another scan with EPU on Wednesday - they are still worried about ectopic 😬 Did 2 sets of bloods and said HCG too high for there to be no pregnancy but not visible on last scan….

Update in case anyone is in a similar position in the future and can help them: In an absolutely bizarre turn of events I am still pregnant (😱😭❤️)!!! Had another scan at EPAU and they found a giant hematoma which apparently caused the severe bleeding and this was coupled with apparently being out with my dates by 3 weeks (how just how?!) so when they first scanned it was too early. Nurse said rarely see hematomas this big and baby really tiny for gestational age but they’ve got me in for another scan next week. I won’t give up hope until then! What a rollercoaster of emotions

So pleased with your fantastic news. I wish you and baby all the very best xx

What a rollercoaster! I hope things keep going ok.
There's a thread due November after loss, there's a several of women with other due dates and there are also a few women who have had bleeds from haematomas too.

So sorry. I had a miscarriage in June 2020 (6 weeks so very early), then again in October 2020 (MMC 11 weeks). Then got pregnant again in the December and had my lovely little boy in 2021. I still think that I can’t carry girls and my two miscarriages were baby girls. Just a feeling I had… and I have 2 boys now. Sending love and baby dust your way. ❤️

Ahh good luck 🤞

Thank you! I’ll have a look at that thread. So many pregnancy conditions you don’t know about it until you get them. In an odd way I’m less concerned about the hematoma than the baby measuring so small. I guess I really need a miracle but they do happen so why not for me?! Deserve some luck after last shitty miscarriage 😄🙏🏻🙏🏻

Thank you so much for your wishes and story of hope. I’m so sorry you lost your baby girls, life can be cruel! And congratulations on your two boys 💙

Hi Op. I’m so sorry for your losses. I know how deeply heartbreaking soul destroying this can be. I have my own thread on this from 2 years ago and how I navigated two losses in quick succession and how I went with my third pregnancy and the changes I made

took plenty of magnesium in the lead up and aspirin as soon as I fell pregnant the third time
i doubled my folic acid intake and also took VIT D in the lead up and after

obviously you will have to cater to your own needs but I also pushed my GP for blood tests and for any other indicators such as thyroid markers
I also said my mental health was suffering as I knew I’d have to try for a third time with the lingering thoughts of it happening again and then being given a ‘pass’ to the MC clinic, it was too much for me
my GP referred me for a scan on my uterus to see if there were any issues there ( then I happened to find out I was pregnant again!)

I happen to have fibroids which I was told should not affect the pregnancies but so worth finding out about as it meant that they kept a closer eye on me in general after

I wish you strength and have my fingers crossed for you and the future x