I (31f) have a lovely 6 year old boy from a previous relationship and I am currently engaged to a really wonderful guy (31m) who has no previous children. I think I would have been happy with just one however I know he was keen to have one so we began trying and a few months later…here I am 15 weeks pregnant. I thought I would be happy and content however I am really struggling. My fiancé drinks several nights a week (some heavier than others) and still has a very active social life and I’ve retreated into my shell. I get quite uncomfortable around people drinking when I’m not and despite telling him this, he has not altered his habits in any way. My dad died from alcoholism when I was young and I find drunk people quite triggering. I’m feeling isolated and alone, like I’ve sacrificed my body, my mind and my lifestyle for him yet he believes his life should be unaffected during this time (he stated this). Am I unreasonable to expect some kind of compromise regarding the drinking? I have become the designated driver on too many occasions already. I’m not sure I would have so readily committed to this had I known that I would feel this isolated and I’m worried his habits and mindset will continue once the baby is here. I suppose I’m looking to see if anyone’s partner has compromised with them during pregnancy or did they become a bit more mature post birth? I read once that how a partner acts throughout a pregnancy sets a precedent for how they will behave when the baby is here and I’m worried he won’t change his bachelor habits. Any tips for feeling less alone and how to make the remaining months more manageable when life just continues as normal around you?