Nesting

[heffalumpwoozle]

I'm 6 months pregnant and wanting to throw myself into the nesting stage, gathering things I need, preparing our home etc.

My husband is reluctant, he always seems to want to wait, keeps saying things aren't necessary to do yet. But I know the next 3 months are going to pass so quickly, and I will only get bigger and more tired!

He's always a last-minuter - if he's getting a train he'll arrive at the station 5 minutes before, whereas I like to have at least 20 minutes to grab a coffee and get settled without stressing.

We're both super excited about the baby but we just have different approaches and this is causing a bit of a tension between us. He got upset when I bought a few clothes without him because he wanted to be involved in choosing the first clothes.

It seems to stress him out if I want to buy stuff or talk about moving furniture. I can't just go ahead and make decisions myself because he wants to discuss and be involved in everything - just not yet.

I just don't want to leave it until the baby is here because I want to spend that time with the baby, not arranging the house!

Anyone else had this with their partner? How did you resolve it if you did?

Also if relevant, this will likely be our only child and we've been trying for 5 years through IVF - so it's a very big deal for us both. I'm so excited and I just want to start preparing all the baby stuff!

Can you compromise and agree a schedule?

Bigger tasks like redecorating and moving furniture need to be done earlier because babies can arrive early, and because you don't want to move furniture after it is full of baby clothes.

Perhaps agree to freshen paintwork over the late May Bank Holiday.

That then gives you two months to source your kit. I wanted to have my bag packed and everything ready by 37 weeks, just in case, but had a little emergency pack of newborn stuff packed away from about 34 weeks just in case.

I'd prioritise some basics now, a few basic white newborn babygros, a hat, shawl, newborn nappies, wipes etc and pack them now. Order the baby carrier/car seat.

Then all the fun stuff can be done a bit later and together. Are you sure your DH isn't a bit nervous? Is that why he's putting it off?