Should I have another baby?

[Chiavennasca]

I’m 33, DH is 34. Our DS is 7, will be 8 soon.

didn’t have a second due to covid etc and now wondering if that ship has sailed - are we and our current DS now too old to bring a new member into the family?

just looking for genuine opinions

How on earth is 33 and 34 too old?!

If you want to try for another and it would be a good decision for your family then go ahead.

I’d say 33 is a perfect age. I wanted more at the same age but put it off now I’m 41 and just got my BFP after a loss in 2023.

You’re absolutely not too old!
Also, that age gap is often better than a say 4 year gap because the older one is much better at going along to younger places like the park because they can chat to you and help out, less likely to moan etc. Go for it!

I had my 2nd at 40 with a 22 year gap between DS and DD so if your too old I must be ready for my free bus pass 😂

Go for it! That's a lovely age gap, your DS will be able to help entertain the LO.

I didn’t so much mean our ages, I know that early thirties is fine. I just meant the age of our family, IYKWIM. Already having a kid (who would be 8 by the time baby appeared)

How did you find going back to nappies baby life etc after the gap!?

I was genuinely worried people would say the age gap isn’t ideal! It’s nice to know that’s not the case!

I love it! I’m more relaxed, have more patience, more experience. I’m confident in how I want to do things, wiser, more settled. I’m literally loving every minute. I think the big gap gave me time to enjoy myself, hobbies and my husband again so now I am refreshed to do it all again. X

It’s crazy people are thinking 33 is too old, when the average mother in the uk is 29 having her first child , and a father is 33
its normal to have children into your late 30s and early 40s
times have changed.
youngsters leave school and go to college or uni, they stay with parents well into their mid twenties or even still in uni.
30 years ago women left home and paired up young and got married young, had children while the father went off to work and one income was enough.
times have changed.. it’s more common now because two parents work, they need to get some sort of stability first before starting a family.

I'm 6 yrs older than next sibling. I included him in my games from when I was about 10 I'd say cos he was able to do what I said by then lol. We got on fairly well through teens and are now quite close as adults in our 30s. A sibling is an amazing thing to give your older child, someone to share family experiences with and as a support in adulthood when you get older. I'd defo go for it.

My eldest was 13 when DD1 was born and 16 when DD2 was born. I’m 33 and DH is 35 now. You’re not too old and my eldest absolutely dotes on his little sisters

I have this age gap with my older sibling - and personally I loved the age gap. We do maybe both behave like 2 only children in the same family but our dynamic works. We were passing ships for a while (they went off to uni when I was 10!) but we’re really close as adults and I’m forever grateful for someone to share the mental/emotional burden as parents get older etc.