Worrying all the time about getting Pregnant

[RoseHiker]

Hi there,

I am almost 10 weeks postpartum and really enjoying motherhood.

However, I have this extreme fear of getting pregnant again even though I didn't get pregnant straight away with my DD.

I had sex once 8 weeks postpartum and used a condom.

My period is due any day now (my cycles are irregular between 29 and 47 days)

I have some cramping and feel crappy which is probably pms but I keep worrying I'm preganant even though I know the chances are v silm.

I can't understand why this is stressing me out when I used protection. I keep thinking knowing my luck I will get pregnant by a mistake! My mind is driving me crazy 🤪

Maybe better to use additional contraception to put your mind at ease? Condoms plus the pill or IUD or implant?

Yes I have the mini pill here but it just makes me feel crap.

It's a man's world isn't it

I’m going to get DEPO injection after this baby (dc3)

Firstly congratulations on ur little one!
No form of contraception is 100% so it’s a good idea to use more than one method to ensure that extra protection e.g condom and implant. I’m sure you’re aware but after having a baby you are extremely fertile so taking those extra precautions may be a good idea if you definitely do not want to fall pregnant again any time soon. Having said that condoms are pretty safe when used correctly (in date, no rips etc.) But don’t also forget you’ve recently had a baby, ur hormones are all over the place and these symptoms you’re having could be pms or just ur body adapting after carrying a baby for 9 months and giving birth! It is easier said than done but just try to relax, you are most likely not pregnant but if u do happen to be it is currently out of your control. Try not to worry until you need to. And definitely speak to your midwife/GP/health visitor before starting any other form of contraception if that’s what you’d like to do. You definitely won’t be the only person in this position so they might be able to offer extra advice or support. Take care of yourself, I really hope u are okay and I am sending u a big virtual hug xxxx

@Natpowell123 thank you for the congrats and my virtual hug. I would like to add I would like another baby in the future just not for another few years. The doctor has prescribed me with a pill which I plan to start once my period arrives. I don't know why I am so worried when it took time to fall pregnant before. I stopped pill in Jan 23 fell preganant in Oct 23 (miscarried) and fell pregnant with my beautiful dd May/June 24.

I suppose it's outta my control and I am being careful and come to think of it I think I made him pull put even with condom on 🤣🤣 I just hear stories and want to enjoy my little one before I consider another baby 👶

Congratulations 🎊
I think it's a pretty normal fear.
Yeah the mini pill is not great I empathise there, but you should be safe enough. And it's most likely just postpartum systems, but when you can take a test to put your mind at ease.
I'm coming on four months postpartum and still haven't had a cycle, so also don't count on it arriving.

It’s definitely not unreasonable to want to enjoy ur first little one before you have another so don’t be so hard on yourself! And enjoy being a mummy xxx

@MumQ8 thanks for your congratulations. I had one cycle I think already but because I am so irregular could be another while before I have one again.

The anxiety is very annoying 😑 I did read on some threads here about people getting false positives after a baby?

@EmilyMarcel thanks for your kind words.

I read about some people getting false positives on tests after pregnancy wonder is that a thing?

I hate how my mind is since having the baby I never feel at ease 😞

Hi All. Just an update. I calmed down and period arrived and started the mini pill.

Thanks for all your kind words xxx