Third trimester and can't take it anymore

[BySharpRedFox]

I am in my 30s and this is my first pregnancy. The first trimester was very difficult as I suffered with HG and was hospitalised a multiple times.
The second trimester the HG stopped but I struggled with being able to sleep and suffered a period of severe depression and anxiety.
I am now nearly 36 weeks pregnant and the HG has returned and I have been hospitalised twice. Now under control but I have not been able to sleep for 2 weeks straight. I have really bad pelvic pain to the point it hurts to do almost anything. I am so uncomfortable at night and in pain. Baby is very low and on my bladder all the time. Last two days I have wet myself multiple times and have 0 control. I spend most nights crying as I can't take it anymore. It is destroying my mental health. What can I do. I have multiple baths a day, take pain killers, have a belly brace, use a hot water bottle. It is managable during the day but night time is very bad. My stomach is considered quiet small but I feel like I am being pulled apart and honestly don't know what to do if I get any bigger. tacan't take 4 more weeks of this. What can I do

That sounds really tough! Can you book an elective c-section?

My sympathies! I’m also 36 (almost 37) weeks and currently awake since 3 am because of the pain in my hips while sleeping. What I’d give to sleep on my back. Also really bad acid in my throat is really burning me. I’m going to get up to go and get some more pillows soon to see if that helps. But we really are so close!

This is my second pregnancy and I have a 3 year old which honestly makes it easier and harder. Easier because I have to focus on her all day I don’t have time to worry about me and harder because she’s still awake in the night a fair bit and wakes between 4.30 and 5 for the day every day. Even bank holidays. The days are long! DH took her out yesterday so I could nap for an hour and it was so needed. My first nap of the pregnancy!

it really isn’t long to go though. I’m finding getting our spaces ready really helpful and setting up the pram and car seat etc. makes you realise how close it is. The HG will very soon be gone, and you will absolutely feel it was all worth it, I promise.

We can do this. Just as soon as I haul my massive self up to go and get those extra pillows and go and grab some more loo roll because I need to pee for the 10000000th time.

Sounds like PGP/SPD. I had that and it was next-level pain tbh, I really feel for you.

I had various osteopath/chiropractor appointments but ultimately it was a hormone thing for me. All I can say is hang in there, you’re so close now.

I'm so sorry to hear you going though this, and that you have had such a rough pregnancy. Have you tried going between the hot water bottle warm compression and cold compression for the pelvic pain? Depends on you though the cold could also make it worse; but I found doing both helped. I think bed rest is good at this stage for you.
If you haven't already get adult diapers, they super useful as well when you just given birth, for that first week. Has your health visitor provided you with mental health care? Are you speaking to someone? If so do that, maybe journeal too if that helps. You need to express and have a healthy outlet. Mental health is the most important.
You almost there, I know right now that won't be comforting. But just take it moment by moment, your beautiful baby is soon going to be this side of the world.

Oh OP you poor thing. I have had two terrible pregnancies and it is just unbearable. Im so sorry you’re going through this.

When I was 35 weeks with my first son I vividly remember sobbing down the phone to the GP for antidepressants as I was so so low from being in extreme chronic back and pelvic pain. (Surprise surprise the GP didn’t help at all…).

You have done SO well to get to where you are.

I would recommend the following highly:

1. physiotherapy ASAP
2. Counselling/therapy to deal with the emotional trauma of what you’re going through
3. taking care of your body as much as possible with pregnancy massage, post pregnancy massage, visiting a pool or spa, anything that makes you feel vaguely better. This is something I’ve done this time which I didn’t do before and it has made my mood a bit better.

The main thing that helps me is I remember the feeling of having my son, and no longer being pregnant. It was amazing. I have clung onto that feeling this time round - you WILL get there. Gorgeous baby will be born and your body will be yours again.

You can do this.

Sorry you're dealing with this been there and it's so rough and feels endless. It's nearly there now. My baby was a terrible sleeper but sleep quality was still better than being pregnant!!

Thank you everyone, I have a midwife appointment in 3 days so going to speak to them and see what my options are.

Pelvic girdle pain is awful and unfortunately, NHS physios will likely only offer you breathing exercises If it’s any consolation, in the vast majority of cases it disappears as soon as the baby is born.

Mine isn’t this bad, but sympathies OP because I’m 38 weeks and struggling too. One thing I have found useful is going to see an osteopath (specialising in pregnancy/post natal rehab). We’ve worked on pelvic exercises to make space for baby, which has helped ease some of the pressure. My midwife was very sympathetic but ultimately just suggested paracetamol 🙄.

Use comfort stuff. Favourite drinks/snacks other things to hand and take a stroll around regularly. Also tell your loved ones so they can support you and no work if you're feeling like this. It's good you have an appointment. I would prepare yourself also for the possibility of an early birth and have a hospital bag packed. I found the last trimester hard too. Mine was born at 5 weeks early. And is perfectly fine thankfully. Hang in there, every day counts towards a more developed baby at this stage, put in your best effort for the last month. Think of it as coming up to a final exam. you got this

And yes, adult diapers could be handy at this stage as one person commented

Sounds like PGP. I have this too, and alongside severe edema and the acid reflux that wakes me up and keeps me awake being sick/coughing/spluttering, I do really empathise. Speak to your MW about both your physical symptoms and how you’re feeling. Your MH is important. Good luck!

You have my sympathy. PGP is awful and completely rehabilitating, have you looked at the stats pelvic girdle pain partnership website? It's a charity that has lots of tips, and I would also recommend seeing a private physio who specialises in this, there's a list on the website.
I found the belts made mine worse.
I'm sick most evenings because the acid reflex is so bad - it completely wears you down.
I'm 34w with my second and saw my midwife this week and I said how wiped I feel and she said many woman get a flurry of first trimester symptoms around this time with sickness and tiredness.
Also once baby engages her n your brain pelvis, it'll make your heartburn better. Do you have a birthing ball to sit on?