Gender

[Stylishmissy90]

Has anyone referred baby as a “he or she” but it been opposite gender? I don’t have gender instincts at all to this baby but I think because I’ve only carried a boy before it automatically makes me refer this baby as a he because of that reminder 😂 some say those thoughts are true but I’m intrigued whether many others have been wrong on what there thought their babies were

I also keep saying ‘he’ everyone I know keeps saying I’m having a boy so I guess it’s just an automatic response!
we find out the gender on Saturday so I’ll find out if they're right or not!

Is this your second too? Why do they all think boy:). No one has actually said except on skull boy on mine but then I found out skull theory isn’t even accurate always haha

I just knew I was having a girl and then I knew it was a boy. Gut feeling was right both times.

I’m not having a gut feeling in the sense. I just went by skull shape on scan at 12 weeks but many say this isn’t even accurate?

No there is no difference in the skull of a baby.

If you're calling it he or she i'd say you must have some kind of gut feeling

Not at all. I carried a boy so I can only associate a boy inside me because reminder when I carried him hence saying he 😂
the only instinct of gender was literally by skull

Oh interesting. I didn't have that with a second pregnancy I must say but I can understand why this could happen.

I needed a million scans due to being high risk, the skull looks different all the time. It just depends on the angle.

i believe some people have instincts and just know. For me personally it’s almost like I made myself believe boy because of carrying my son in there it’s weird.

the skull does look a bit strange I find at 12 weeks. My sons was weird shaped on the scan photo lol

You mean biological sex, not gender.

This is my second pregnancy and I also thought boy as my first is a boy and I’m so used to being a boy mum, my sickness was even milder this time round as well. I’ve found out though that I’m having a girl this time, so for me I didn’t have a gut feeling lol

They did a study on this and found that mothers who had an instinct about their baby’s sex were right about half the time.

Which you’d expect.

When you are having a baby, people say gender. They are called gender scans and so people have gender reveals.

If the terminology isn't right then it is what is is but i wish people would stop giving others a hard time. It's almost always guaranteed to pop up on a post like this 🤦‍♀️

I think they use the euphemism because ‘sex reveal’ parties could be misinterpreted 😅

I don't think we will find out gender as we both have a preference (I know we shouldn't, we're lucky to even have any healthy baby). I think finding out on the day will be better for us as I wouldn't want to overthink it in advance. I also think that if we knew gender we might settle on a name and I'd rather wait and see what they 'look' like.

I am feeling guilty for having a preference though and if I am somehow being disloyal or unloving to my baby. Anyone else have these feelings? I don't want a gender scan as I would hate for the feelings to be of disappointment if it isn't the gender we'd like. I know this makes me an awful person.

@OneWaryCat
Wouldn’t it be better to have worked through any feelings of disappointment before they’re born though? Rather than feel even a tiny bit of disappointment at your child’s birth?

I genuinely don't think I'll feel ANY disappointment after going through labour and having my baby safely in my arms.

@OneWaryCatgender disappointment is a real thing, but I think people have said when they find out before the babies born they have a chance to get used to the idea instead of wishful thinking to the end. It’s up to you though. Do you mind if I ask what gender you’re hoping for?