AIBU ?

[TheThreeMiracles]

I’m 31 weeks and feeling so tired uncomfortable but so so grateful and happy ! However today my “ d” p said to me he’d do anything for two weeks off with the kids ( I have 2 kids ages 7 and 21 months ) but you don’t seem to enjoy it at all!! This is because I said I was utterly exhausted and asked him to be abit more considerate around the house and to actually listen to my feelings and needs 🫣 AIBU to be really pissed off !
In really enjoy spending time with my kids especially the holidays !! We do something every day and this is my happiest time!! I’m just tired !

It's fine for him to wish that he had more time with the kids. It's fine for you to find it hard.

What's not fine is that he is inconsiderate around the house and doesn't listen to your feelings and needs.

He probably doesn't get it because, in my experience, men's time off with the kids isn't as involved as women's time off with the kids. They have fun but don't do all the domestic work alongside we do. I know I'm generalising but that's how it works here.

It honestly feels like I can’t say I’m exhausted without him making it out to something it isn’t ! I absolutely treasure every second with my kids and love being pregnant ! Just seems I’m not able to say I’m tired without him making me feel like I’m ungrateful and not a nice mum! X

If you are tired now how do you think you will feel when you have the third?

Why doesn’t he take some last minute time off then and take on the brunt of the work with the kids?

Pregnancy is hard work when you have little ones to look after on top. You are allowed to be tired and to express that to your partner. He is meant to be supportive, not try to engage in some kind of point scoring game.

Does he do much in terms of his share around the house/parenting?

@BlondiePortz helpful 😂 not ! Of course I will be tired I’m not moaning about being tired.

@ReesesCupcakehit the nail on the head there, that’s what I mean I should be able to tell him I’m exhausted and feel supported but i don’t! He sees it as I’m just moaning or having a dig against him! Yes he’s very good with our kids I can’t fault him there but it’s the little things like he’ll spend a whole evening at football say hello get up with the youngest which he does but then he lets him come in and wake me up and then he wonders why I’m so irritable! He goes out 2 evenings a week ( which is absolutely fine with me ) but I feel he doesn’t have any care when it comes to me needing 5 minutes to wake up etc !