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Unexpected pregnancy and have had alcohol. Very worried!

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TheNewBiscuit · 15/04/2025 02:40

I just found out I'm pregnant today using a home pregnancy test, I took 3 tests to confirm. I also tested 4 days ago as my period is already delayed but tested negative at the time. My period is very irregular especially since stopping my birth control pill 5 months ago. I don't know what to feel, I'm excited and anxious at the same time. Thinking have I done all the right things this leading up. I did have a few drinks the other day. I am not an alcoholic but I do enjoy a few glasses of wine over dinner every weekend, just the other day me and my husband are celebrating a new job and I did have a couple of glasses of wine that night. I am now very nervous that I may have caused harm to my unborn child. I have read a few forums that this is common but I am still feeling very anxious.

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Irie1980 · 15/04/2025 02:57

Congratulations OP. Your baby won't be affected by a few glasses of wine. Most of us will be caught out at early stages of pregnancy with a few drinks but rest assured no harm will be done.

MumQ8 · 15/04/2025 05:25

Congratulations, I completely understand your worry I was in the same boat. And it's alright, it's early days. When the eggs a bycost etc, alcohol doesn't seem to effect it the same way, as it does once the placenta takes over.

We had actually given up after years of trying it all diets etc, and IVF that couldn't happen (my eggs were duds). I was back on contraception to help with my PCOS systems. I hadn't had a period in six months so nothing was unusual there. The millions of hopful tests I took all negative. About a month after, we were going out to a sports event and I planned to drink a lot and let loose, I had been forever sober at this point. I still took one last test that morning and it was negative.

Then a week or so later, I felt odd with symptoms. I took a test and first positive ever. Was the happiest, scariest moment. I just got a magic baby, after all drs said it would be impossible, but did I ruin everything, I was so worried. But now my baby boy is almost four month old, and he is perfect.

Needless to say, I stayed sober the rest of the pregnancy after that. As even though it's a controversial subject of people feeling a glass and moderation is fine. Other studies showed negative effects from any alcohol. And that I couldn't risk.

But relax and enjoy the moment.

TheNewBiscuit · 15/04/2025 06:49

Apparently if based on my LMP I am 7 weeks now. This is my first so I’m not really sure about everything but since my period is very irregular I don’t even know if I’m still counting from my last menstrual period. I probably had at least 2-3 glasses of wine twice a week the last couple of weeks. I’m really worried and anxious. I am generally an anxious person and I know being stressed about this is not good for me but I’m really struggling. Thanks for the reassurance guys!

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Fuelledbylatte · 15/04/2025 06:53

18 years ago I was at a hen do…shots, cigarettes, insane amounts of alcohol that took me 3 days to recover from…except it wasn’t just a hangover..it was pregnancy.

That 18 year old is just about to finish their A levels and has developed and grown without a hitch.

I wouldn’t recommend doing anything that is advised against in pregnancy but rest assured your baby will be fine and enjoy your next 9 months!

MightAsWellBeGretel · 15/04/2025 06:55

I've been there myself, OP and felt the same worry. It's really common, I've never known of anyone's baby that has been affected.

I'd take this as a cue that you might have an anxious pregnancy, though. You can get support for that - I had no idea, felt stupid about all my worries and kept quiet and suffered. Just something to think about and be aware of.

PeachesPeachesPeachesPeachesPeaches · 15/04/2025 06:56

Congratulations! As a mum to an child I adopted with FASD I am usually the first to point out that there is no known safe amount of alcohol to consume during pregnancy and that any amount of alcohol could be dangerous.

That said…if you tested negative a few days ago and are testing positive this morning, and you weren’t on a two day bender over the weekend, you’ll be absolutely fine. Truly ❤️

Flipslop · 15/04/2025 06:58

TheNewBiscuit · 15/04/2025 06:49

Apparently if based on my LMP I am 7 weeks now. This is my first so I’m not really sure about everything but since my period is very irregular I don’t even know if I’m still counting from my last menstrual period. I probably had at least 2-3 glasses of wine twice a week the last couple of weeks. I’m really worried and anxious. I am generally an anxious person and I know being stressed about this is not good for me but I’m really struggling. Thanks for the reassurance guys!

Your baby will be fine, I’d highly recommend you undertake lots of therapy as soon a possible though to try and understand your anxiety. It will mean you enjoy your pregnancy and baby as you should and also, very importantly, mean you’re in a better position not to pass this behaviour on to your child. Be kind to yourself, take care of yourself x

Cognacsoft · 15/04/2025 07:06

Your baby will be fine @TheNewBiscuit .

I had been on a boozy holiday a week before discovering I was pregnant.
I told the gp how worried I was and he said that babies affected by alcohol intake are the children of alcoholic mothers.
My dc was fine.

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