39+2 weeks c section not booked

[Millennial92]

I'll try and make this short. 1st birth 3b tear, forceps, episiotomy, hemorrhage. 10 months of physio and scar therapy and about 1 year to have comfortable sex.

I was in consultant led care which didn't help as I was just given statistics and told my body would know what to do for second vaginal birth and given info to read on c section. I battled but chose a vaginal birth so back to midwives until...

At 38 weeks went in to be observed with reduced movement, given a scan (baby is already bigger than my 1st when born) I also had to have a doctor look down there as I was having some problems which led me to develop a skin tag and while the skin has healed around it, she recommended a c section due to previous birth. She said she seems women regularly who didn't have problems from vaginal tearing after birth but now in their 50s and having incontinence both with urine and bowels and when she finds out their birth history she can see why. She said its not worth the risk so I went to see a consultant the next day to book a c section.

I'm now 39.2 and have heard nothing about the section date. I know it was late booking but one hospital told me I was well within my rights to request one whenever I liked and then the hospital where I've chosen to give birth have been pushing for a vaginal deliver as Im not on the system and basically saying "well so you say you've booked a c section". I mean I even signed the paper work but they aren't taking me seriously. Was in triage yesterday with contractions 5 mins apart and I waited 6 hours before going in and it was just a shit show 😅

Both midwife and doctor told me that a vaginal birth may happen and even prepped me for a home birth! I checked my notes after and I'm 2cm dilated which I know doesn't mean much but that was never said to me at the time. I started crying speaking to the doctor who asked me why I was so stressed?.. I'm now mentally preparing to give birth vaginally after making peace with a c section.

I'm about to make some calls but just making sure I'm not emotional because I'm annoyed with the whole situation.

You need to ring the maternity unit or your midwife and remind them you were advised of a section for medical reasons and want to know when it will happen. Is your midwife good and will hound them for you?

I feel for you, OP.
It sounds like miscommunication between different teams/notes. I really hope you can get your midwives to speak to the hospital where you're due to give birth. Good luck. Xxx

I've been trying to contact my midwife but no luck yet so I've emailed for a call back.

I've called the trust and the lady was very nice said they were just about to have a meeting and she has me on her list to discuss and I've agreed I will take either hospital so looking into that. Yes I would of liked to be done and dusted if I'm honest but really at this stage all I want is to be given a date!

With 2nd babies you can be at like 2cm dilated before birth for ages. So don't panic about that bit.

Deffo ring up and find out what's happening

I've just been given an appointment for this afternoon... Heading in now although I've had alot of calls in the meantime trying to talk me out of it... By nurses and a doctor. Is this normal? Really panicking on whether I've made the right decision or not.

Yes, unfortunately it’s normal, but don’t let it get to you if you’ve made your decision! I’ve had two sections due to large babies. I have never regretted it for one second.