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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Pregnant after basically giving up

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wavyblue12 · 11/04/2025 18:59

Background. 29 year old, long term partner 10 years. One 8 year old. PCOS. TTC for 6 years, had 4 miscarriages and been treated with clomid - letrozole. Was told 2 years ago that there was nothing more we could try apart from pay for IVF.

Decided to forget about it, move on and enjoy life. Started coming to the realisation of having an only child and accepted this. One week before my 30th birthday, I had a missed period and sore boobs. Normally my periods are all over the place anyway. Took a test to be safe. Positive test. 6+4 going by last period day. I was so upset when I had the positive pregnancy test as I had finally moved on with the fact we would probably not have another child. We hadn’t given up, just lack of trying really.

Few lifestyle changes, lost a bit weight, partner stopped drinking alcohol, change of diet eating less red meat. Not sure if linked.

I am over the initial shock of it now however I am now just panicking I will miscarry again. My symptoms have never been so strong before in a pregnancy, I feel sick, tired, sore boobs etc which are telling me this may be a good sign. However I haven’t made it past 7 weeks before since I had my 8 yo. Do I book an early private scan? To put myself at ease. How do I think differently of this time and try to have hope.

Any words of wisdom welcome.

OP posts:
Treacletartfart · 11/04/2025 19:02

I would go for it with an early scan. Anything to help you relax. Wishing you and your family the best xx

Moschatelle · 11/04/2025 19:04

Congratulations! 🙌 What’s the point of panicking? Enjoy and believe all will be well. x

Deanefan · 11/04/2025 19:05

i can see that this might be both terrifying and exciting at the same time. Start taking folic acid and try and resist the urge to book an early scan. The scan will only show if things are viable on the day of the scan fairly sure nothing you do or don’t do will influence whether this pregnancy will advance successfully.
Easier said than done but just have to wait and see. All the best.

LaTable · 11/04/2025 22:13

Moschatelle · 11/04/2025 19:04

Congratulations! 🙌 What’s the point of panicking? Enjoy and believe all will be well. x

Clearly somebody who has never been through multiple miscarriages.

If booking a private scan will ease the panic and anxiety about making it past week 7, absolutely do it.
Perhaps call epu/ doctor for bloods to help with confirmation of hcg rise?

Since you had 4 consecutive miscarriages, did you ever get testing done?
Perhaps you can request a blood panel for your antibodies (if rhs negative), thyroid function, hcg and progesterone?
And request progesterone to be perscribed to assist with the first trimester?

Moschatelle · 11/04/2025 22:17

You’re correct @LaTable but I’m also very positive in outlook.

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