Unwanted/ unsure pregnancy after miscarriage

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I'm 37 and recently found out I'm pregnant again. 6 months ago I had a miscarraige and it hit me pretty hard. But I worked through it and made plans to travel around south east Asia with my husband and 2 year old for 6 months at the end of the year. But now I've found out I'm pregnant again and I am really actually gutted. Whilst I wanted a second child (or thought i did) the timing couldn't be worse. I really don't know what to do. I realise I am getting older so the chance for another isn't guaranteed. I'm surprised feel like this given how upset I was when I miscarried. But I made peace with the fact it'll be just the 3 of us. Has anyone has a similar experience/ feelings? What should I do?

Did you know after your MC that you didn't want to try again/have another child?

Are your negative feelings towards this pregnancy due to the fact that you have this holiday booked and you feel like it will interfere with your travel plans?

Only you can answer this as everyone's individual circumstances are different.

Would you want to try for another child after your holiday? If the answer is yes then you should progress with the pregnancy. I never encourage terminations if it could have been prevented/not wanted.

Good luck.

I think if you wanted a second child, and you’re 37 years old, then having an abortion for the sake of a foreign holiday is probably a recipe for regret and heartbreak. You might not have another opportunity, and you can always rebook your travel in ~3 years time and go as a family of four.

I’m all for women being free to choose whatever feels right for them when it comes to a pregnancy, but aborting for a relatively trivial reason such as a holiday really puts you at risk of ending up wishing you hadn’t. Would you truly enjoy the travelling knowing what it had cost you?