22weeks but don't truly believe I'm going to have a baby

[redvelvet7]

Hello,
Just curious if anyone else has felt like this. I'm 22weeks, anomaly scan all went well, baby is very planned and I'd love nothing more than to be a mum. Even though I'm feeling symptoms and I've got a bump etc I just don't feel like it's happening for me. I've only bought some clothes so far, not any of the bigger purchases because something is stopping me from really believing this to all be real.

Are you feeling much movement yet? When it’s pretty constant that makes it feel more real 😊

I totally felt like this the entire way through my pregnancy. I think it was a way of protecting myself. I still am not sure I believe that DS actually exists and he’s 5.5 now. It just seems too good to be true.

Yep I felt like this my entire pregnancy even when we bought the pram, did the nursery and had 15 scans! I think it was due to 4 losses so I didn’t let myself believe he was really going to exist. When I heard him cry after my emergency section I cried and cried, I really couldn’t believe it and I just stared at him all night.

I remember feeling like I couldn’t believe there was a baby even when I was 9 months pregnant. I don’t think it sunk in until we were home.

Yes I felt like this completely. It's a massive thing to get your head round. I think by the time you're late into the third trimester though it kind of sinks in. Now it's hard for me to wrap my head around the fact that I was ever pregnant

This is really normal, don’t worry x

Every time I'm going for a scan I feel like they're going to tell me there's nothing there and it's a phantom pregnancy. Almost 21 weeks and still find it very hard to believe I'm pregnant! I've had symptoms, can feel little one moving a lot more now, and the scans all came back lovely, but it's just still a surreal thing I suppose.

@redvelvet7 I'm 29 weeks tomorrow and have had this all the way through. My husband thinks I'm mad!

Don't worry. Labor & delivery will fix that

I was organised felt lots off movements had terrible heartburn knew full well I was pregnant etc but it took me going into the delivery room and seeing the cot that made me think shit this is really happening am going to have a baby in that cot very soon.

Yes totally normal! When we were trying I just never thought it would happen (for no reason!). Then when it happened I felt like you! All the best for the rest of your pregnancy and after! x

I also think this is very normal. I didn't really truly believe there was a baby until the midwife put her in my arms (even while literally pushing her out!)

I do now and then but not too frequent just yet

I didn't believe it until I heard my baby crying! Just couldn't comprehend actually having a (much wanted) baby. Then I heard him cry and saw him and just loved him so much, just stared at him adoringly for hours. Them postnatal hormones are something else!

I still feel this way despite being 38 weeks on Wednesday.

I was the same OP until she was in my arms. I have OCD and ruined my pregnancy through obsession with still birth, birth defects, etc.

No one knows if they will have a healthy full term pregnancy, but being anxious doesn't change anything and the outcome will be the same, so try your best to enjoy it!

I honestly don’t think I gave my pregnancy two consecutive thoughts outside of scans and midwife appointments until I went on maternity leave, I was so busy. We didn’t buy anything till then, either, because I spent the pregnancy working overseas (had to go on maternity leave leave at 36 weeks as airline wouldn’t fly me after that).

That’s completely normal. I felt like that especially with my second because I’d had a miscarriage before getting pregnant with her so always in the back of my mind I was thinking something could go wrong. It does start sinking in by about the last 6 weeks which is why I think “nesting” kicks in and makes you want to get everything ready for the baby

I’m 21 weeks pregnant and feel exactly the same. I’ve had two consecutive miscarriages and this is my first baby. I am high risk so my anxiety really has been out of control at times.
Reading other peoples experiences is actually really comforting to know it’s not just me.

My mum who never had any miscarriages or problems cried her eyes out when my younger brother was born she just couldn’t believe she’d had three healthy babies.

I think it’s probably more prevalent than I thought. You’re meant to be so excited about having a baby but it’s such an overwhelming experience