When to tell 7 year old about pregnancy?

[Scoobywho24]

I’m 10 weeks and have my dating scan at 12+1 and have been thinking all along I would wait until then. I’ve had a scan once per week (getting here has taken 6 years and a lot of ivf) as I’m nervous. Growth has been consistent every week and no issues at all so far.

ive paid for a private NIPT and get the results next week. I have just started to doubt whether we should tell our daughter (7) after the 12 week scan. It isn’t because she will be excited etc, she’s actually not bothered about a sibling, but I do feel guilty for being so tired and useless at the moment. I feel torn because it could go wrong, but it could technically go wrong at any point. Just wondering what others think?

We told our 6 year old after the 20 week scan, for 2 reasons really, 1 if something went wrong to protect her from that and 2 time is so much longer when your that age so waiting seems to take forever so this meant she wasn't 'waiting' as long either. She did eye my stomach suspiciously a few times before we'd told her but I just did my best to hide the bump.

I've got an almost 5 yo and am nearly 15 weeks. I'll be telling her after the anomaly scan. I was asked earlier why my tummy was so big today but she seemed happy with the big dinner answer.

We waited til after 20 week scan. We only told a few close friends before that.

It’s such a personal decision. There is no right or wrong.
I’m telling my similar aged child this weekend and I’m nearly 11 weeks (had several scans). I want them to share the excitement now, and to explain why I’ve not been well. Sometimes it’s worse for children to be left in the dark/guessing incorrectly in their own mind. Friends have told their children right from the positive test. Other friends have waited until after 12 week scan.
Do what you think is right. Whilst of course we want to shield our children incase it goes wrong, it could technically go wrong at any time and we can’t shield them from everything in life sadly.
All the best.

20/24 weeks is when I would tell

For me it would depend on when and who else you tell. You don't want her accidentally hearing about it from someone else.

Congratulations @Scoobywho24
I told my dd age 5 at the time at 9 weeks ( after I’d had a scan ) then with my pregnancy now ( dd 7 ) we told her the day I had the 12 week scan xx

We told our 6 and 9 year olds after the 12 week scan. They were starting to get worried about how unwell I'd been and I wouldn't have managed to hide the belly much beyond 16 weeks. I'd had previous losses though so it was a worry that we'd tell them and then something may still happen so I don't think there's a right answer!

Thanks everyone for your replies!

I am even more in two minds about the 12 weeks now 😭 I will not be able to hide it from people like other mums during the school run etc and family at kids birthday parties if I make it 20 weeks, I will definitely pop by then and it’s summer. I definitely don’t want her hearing it from someone else. I think I’m going to wait until I’m obviously showing and then will tell her 🫶🏻