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Any regrets ?

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TTCNO2AT44 · 01/04/2025 23:19

As my name suggests I'm about to roll the dice one last time for baby no 2. And I'm 44 (just).

It wasn't that we waited until now. We have a 10 year old through IVF. I then had a natural but chemical pregnancy when she was 3. We decided when she was 5 to try IVF again, but we went into lockdown, the clinic postponed our appointment and the madness that was 2020/21 happened and it just wasn't the right time for us. I then had two natural pregnancies in 2022, lost one at 9 weeks and the other at 14. It's been too hard to try again the last two years.

We have two embryos left. It's now or never for us now. But I'm so apprehensive. This isn't a post asking if anyone thinks I'm too old so please hold back on those replies. I'd like to hear from anyone whose had children at my age, hows it worked out for you? In your 50s, 60s anyone beyond that !

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Rainbowsunshine81 · 01/04/2025 23:42

Hi pregnant at 44 through IVF using donor egg and husband's own sperm. We had three embryos left and decided to put all 3 back.
One took and having another little boy. Have a 8 year little boy conceived naturally.
Have no regrets and really glad we decided to go one last time. Feeling very grateful ❤️

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TTCNO2AT44 · 02/04/2025 07:59

Thank you for replying @Rainbowsunshine81 and congratulations! Lovely to hear from someone in a very similar situation. How far along are you and how is it going? I never considered putting both embryos in at the same time, was that due to grading?

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Rainbowsunshine81 · 02/04/2025 08:11

@TTCNO2AT44 That's ok, thank you ❤️ I'm 33 weeks and two days. I do have placenta previa, and have had two hospital stays due to some bleeding which can happen. We'd just decided after going through everything to put the remaining three back as we knew that we didn't want them to either be destroyed, for research or donated to someone else and also if we hadn't have gave it another go probably would have regretted it and always thought what if. I think the grades were a 3AA and two early blastocysts and also it had been the third time we'd done it.

Girltoddler · 02/04/2025 08:17

You’ve already been through IVF and several losses so I think you should just focus on your 10 year old. She’ll soon be going through a lot of changes. She’ll need you and a baby would impact that. I have friends (my age) with parents the same age as my grandparents (they weren’t much older than you when I was born) and they’re worried about the time left. I have one child and fertility issues soon understand the pain.

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TTCNO2AT44 · 02/04/2025 22:16

Oh wow not long to go, how exciting! Are you having a c section due to the previa?

I could've wrote exactly what you gave days about research and donating, I think that's part of my urge to go back. I can't imagine giving them up. They are 11 years old now, both 5s I think BC and CB, all we can do is hope!

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Rainbowsunshine81 · 02/04/2025 22:42

@TTCNO2AT44 Yep, having a c section due to the placenta previa and also pretty much decided I would be having one even if the placenta had moved.
Always worth a try and then you know you've tried and given it a go. X

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