Friend without kids

[FluentBee]

Hey
I'm just looking for a general perspective on my current situation
I'm pregnant with my second child.

I have a old friend who with my first child, (child is 2 now), this friend has never asked about my child, like at all. She doesn't have kids and I keep putting myself in her shoes however I keep thinking underneath it all if she was true friend wouldn't she ask even once in my child's existence how they are? It feels like my child doesn't exist to her

I'm pregnant with second and similar situation during this pregnancy,she doesn't ask how I am doing, doesn't ask about anything about the baby. I don't expect it every time however once in the pregnancy would be lovely.
Iv know idea if she wants kids. The friendship is feeling more like her being an acquaintance now as she at times doesn't respond to my messages despite me being the first to reach out.
I don't have a huge circle of friends and getting to the point of feeling like completely distancing myself now from her cause of the above
Suppose what I'm trying to ask is am I being over sensitive whilst being pregnant or is it time to let this person go?
I think about the above everyday as silly as that is but suppose feel hurt about it all too

She may be completely disinterested in children in general, or she could be having infertility issues but has not shared this with you. I found several friends distanced themselves immediately when I told them I was pregnant, and only one ever came back. I knew that one definitely wanted children but her long-term partner didn’t and she was early 40’s by this time. It’s hard for some people to see others having what they want and they are prepared to end a friendship for it.

For some friends they may come back to you eventually, but for others the friendship will fade away. I found it hurtful that I was only worthwhile to some friends if my life suited them, but learned to move on.

Focus on making new friends and acquaintances through baby and toddler groups etc, and you can always keep the lines of communication open with your old friend if you wish.

If you don’t talk about your family or how you are, what do you talk about? Do you even need her as a friend?

I've had this with one of my best friends. She was really crap with asking about my child. She's had a baby in the last year and I find myself resentful sometimes because she was so useless to me and now she's so into motherhood

I wouldn't ditch your friend so quickly. I became a mum in my mid-40s and prior to that was completely ignorant of what being a mum's like (obviously!). To really seal it in, I don't have any sisters so didn't have an older sister to pass on the knowledge, plus my cousins and friends mostly had children a decade before me and my priorities were simply different back then - I was into travelling, lunch, events, concerts and being very social. Fast-forward to today: I now roll my eyes at some of the other women who give my partner and me the weirdest stares as we wheel our empty pram to collect our DC from nursery! There are so many people who have absolutely no idea why we're walking with am empty pram and point and laugh as though we're some odd couple who pretend to have a child in her empty pram. It truly is a IYKYK thing. Sadly, when I was single I would have been like those people who now laugh at me as I simply had no idea what it was like being a parent and all the things that come with parenting. I wouldn't have asked how my friends' kids were. I just couldn't relate to it and wouldn't know what to ask.