How to tell DP I’m pregnant with unplanned 3ed?

[Newusername12349]

I will get all the basic details out first then get into my specific issue, I’m also not sure if I’m being silly about this whole thing.
We have 2 DC, DD5 and DS3. We are both 27. We did plan to have a third child, but we planned to wait a bit (till DS is in school). I’ve come off hormonal birth control as it was kind of messing with me a bit so we have been using condoms. We have been diligent with it… apart from one time.
I recently went to see my mum, I was kind of sleepy and didn’t feel great and she asked if I was pregnant… thought about it, hadn’t had my period… took a test and well, it was positive. I have had a scan and I am 12 weeks pregnant. I am really worried as I drank a couple of times. Like really stressed. I was sober for both my other pregnancies and leading up to them.
For the other two, I did like a fun little reveal for my husband (he likes that kind of thing, he’s sentimental). I don’t know if I should do that for this one tho… because I’m not sure how he will react. I want to make it clear, I’m not scared he will be angry or fly off the handle or anything like that, but I don’t know if it’s appropriate to do a big reveal. We are financially fine, and we can afford the baby, but it will mean no holidays and stuff like that. I’m not sure if I’m being silly about the whole thing (I had really bad anxiety when I was pregnant with my DS - so please go easy on me).
He is at work right now and I’ve kept it from him for 4 days so I know I need to tell him tonight, I’m just not sure if I should do anything like I did with the other two or just sit him down, give him a cup of tea and say I’m pregnant?

I would just sit him down. As you are not sure of the reaction this is the best way.

What do you expect him to say?

I think you should do reveal to him. It will set a positive tone for this baby, I think if you don't do this when you have in the past it sends a different message.
It's very rare for people to be able to perfectly time when they have a baby. You wanted a third child and It's happened, sounds lovely to me.

I’d say do a reveal but add in some humour to soften the tone?
Maybe a poem from baby to Daddy “I couldn’t wait to meet you so I’ve come a little early” kind of thing.
Good luck and congratulations ❤️

Do the same as you did for the others, you're not responsible for a mistake, you don't have to apologise, or minimise it, this is a situation of both of your making equally. He's as in this as you are, you just happen to have found out first!

Another vote to do a humorous reveal. Don't ever look on this baby as a mistake, just a slightly earlier than planned, much wanted, third child.

A reveal when you know you're trying is very different to a reveal when you've been surprised too. I wouldn't do a big reveal for him, but I would say something like "I've just had the shock of my life - I'm pregnant!" I think otherwise you risk the tone being more shocked than pleased, and that sets a bad tone for the rest of the pregnancy. Let him get his head round it, like you've had a chance to since you found out.

I wouldn't do the reveal because he won't be prepared for the news the way he would be if you were TTC and it could go so wrong. You could do something special on father's day from the new baby instead.

Thank you. I normally do a card with a fun poem in and a sonogram pic so nothing massive. I might see if I can find a safe sex pamphlet or something and put that in the card with the pic. I don’t think he will have a bad reaction, but I do think he will be worried about money but he’s always worried about money to be honest.

I’m also a bit worried about telling his mum this early on, but I do want to tell her since my mum knows. Both times I’ve been pregnant before my mum has clocked it, she’s got a real sixth sense.

Hope all went well OP, congratulations! X

I'm hoping your husband embraced the news he is to be a dad once again, with joy, once he'd got over the shock. I think the idea of including a pamphlet about safe sex is clever. I actually googled 'safe sex poem' for you, and found a horror show of a ditty written by Donald Hall, an American poet. Read it at your own risk! 😂

Hi! So I told him last night and it was great!
He was a bit aggy when he came home from work so I just gave him a tea and left him with the kids for a bit. Then we put them to bed. DD would not go to bed which is abnormal for her and I was just thinking “yes of course today is the day when you don’t want to go to bed why wouldn’t it be”. Then I sat him down, gave him the card and told him. He was actually very excited and not as shocked as I thought. He said he knew there was a chance and the fact I’ve been going to bed at the same time as the kids pretty much recently did make him think. So basically I am the only person who was shocked. He did want to call his mum, but we are going to hers this weekend so we are going to tell her and FIL in person. I honestly don’t know why I was so anxious and I do feel kind of silly now, but very very relieved.

Ah that’s lovely news @Newusername12349, congratulations!