26 weeks- Too scared to have sex incase I bleed/harm our baby

[SophieRules]

I’m 26 weeks. At around 9 weeks I bled due to a subchrionic hematoma, and haven’t had sex since. The hematoma has now gone. I also had an cervix exam with a speculum at around 22 weeks and that caused about 3 days of spotting/brown blood and was told again to avoid sex, not that we’d being doing it anyway. I’m too scared to have sex and am thinking to not have sex for the rest of the pregnancy. There is zero pressure from my husband and I still feel totally connected to him. I think the pressure is from myself as in a just think surely it’s not right to have sex basically for 9 months. Anyone been in this situation/advice?

@SophieRules there are plenty of other ways to engage in sexual intimacy that don’t involve PIV. There are plenty of couples who don’t have sex for a multitude of reasons. You shouldn’t be pressuring yourself to do something you have been advised against on medical grounds. It’s great your DH is being supportive, you can explore other ways of physical connection if you want to but as long as the two of you are content then that is what’s right.

Thank you, just to stress there is no advice to not have sex now. But I think I’m not in the space to have sex and that’s ok.

Three pregnancies and didn’t do it for the whole 9 months in all pregnancies. Was way too scared something would happen!

@SophieRules even if it’s medically safe you are right to listen to how you’re feeling emotionally/mentally. If you’re worried about bleeding or harming the baby (even if medically unlikely) you aren’t going to enjoy yourself. It’s totally ok not to have sex if you don’t want to, just keep lines of communication open with your DH. As I said there are plenty of alternatives and ways to stay physically connected.