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Stressed and guilt

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Ellerdcc · 19/03/2025 18:55

I’ve had a really hard day and worried my low days are getting more and more frequent. The last couple of weeks have been stressful and my pregnancy anxiety has been quite bad and I’m just so worried it’s going to affect the baby! I feel so guilty and I don’t know what to do cause it’s causing me to be more stress on top of everything else. I also had my 12 weeks scan on Tuesday where baby measure 11+2/3 and they told me that we need to go back in 2 weeks as the skull isn’t formed so need to make sure not an abnormality and now I’m beating myself like I’ve not done enough. I just didn’t realise I was going to struggle this much…I’ve wanted this for so long and now I’m so scared to lose it all. I wasn’t to sure where to go as not many people know yet and I just needed somewhere to vent…

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Elz1406 · 19/03/2025 19:43

I'm so sorry you're going through such a stressful time and that the scan has caused more worry. I also had horrible anxiety with my first baby - pregnancy can really do a number on your mental health!

One thing I do feel really sure about is that you have nothing to feel guilty about at all! My understanding is that there's really very little you can do or not do in your ordinary life that can affect a pregnancy. I had a consultant psychiatrist reassure me that whilst my OCD and anxiety were awful for me, they wouldn't be damaging my baby.Your anxiety is horrible for you but it absolutely won't be responsible for any problems that may or may not come back with your baby. Pregnancy is hard enough without having to worry about being worried!

Have you been asked to be referred to perinatal mental health services? There's support out there for mums struggling with their mental health during pregnancy.

I really hope you get the reassurance you need at your next scan and just to reiterate any problems will not be your fault!!! Xxx

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Ellerdcc · 19/03/2025 21:36

Elz1406 · 19/03/2025 19:43

I'm so sorry you're going through such a stressful time and that the scan has caused more worry. I also had horrible anxiety with my first baby - pregnancy can really do a number on your mental health!

One thing I do feel really sure about is that you have nothing to feel guilty about at all! My understanding is that there's really very little you can do or not do in your ordinary life that can affect a pregnancy. I had a consultant psychiatrist reassure me that whilst my OCD and anxiety were awful for me, they wouldn't be damaging my baby.Your anxiety is horrible for you but it absolutely won't be responsible for any problems that may or may not come back with your baby. Pregnancy is hard enough without having to worry about being worried!

Have you been asked to be referred to perinatal mental health services? There's support out there for mums struggling with their mental health during pregnancy.

I really hope you get the reassurance you need at your next scan and just to reiterate any problems will not be your fault!!! Xxx

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Thank you, I think it’s just that guilt of am I doing enough to ensure baby’s safe. It means a lot to hear what you have said and really appreciate it.

It’s horrible and I’m glad you managed to get through it. It horrible when you struggle in general and then all the hormone heighten everything further. I have an appointment tomorrow with the perinatal mental health team so hopefully they can put me at ease, I just think it all just got a little bit too much today and wasn’t too sure where to turn to.

thank you so much, just trying my hardest to stay positive xx

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