Feeling really emotional over my first born while pregnant

[Motherof1and2dogs]

I find it hard to put this one into words, but I am starting to get real bad guilt for my first born now that it’s getting closer to my due date with my second. I feel like in a way I am letting him down, I feel like crying that it won’t just be us anymore, he won’t have my full attention, I kind of feel like I am neglecting him in a way. I was looking at his baby photos the other day also getting so emotional that he won’t be the baby of the family anymore. Are these thoughts/ feelings common when you’re having a second child?

Obviously I am over the moon we are having a little girl, a little sister for our son, another addition to our family but also feel like I am loosing something? 🤷‍♀️🥺

I think this is fairly normal. Just make sure you have daddy take the baby so you can still have time with your boy. What is the gap between them?

On the very contrary, you are enriching your son's life by giving him a sibling. He will surely remain your baby and become a big brother! 😘

@Ph3 100% I don’t want my son feeling left out, he is also such a Mummy’s boy. He is 2.5, baby due July and he turns 3 in September.

I had this the first week after dc2 was born. Wept for dc1 - was very hormonal.

Now I see how much dc1 loves their sibling i can see it was a gift not a curse to have a sibling. You still love your first child just as much and it does them good to share the attention

Oh bless. Very similar to me! Don’t worry it’s normal and it will settle. My eldest (boy now 12) still comes into my bed for morning cuddles 🥰.

@Waterlilysunset did those emotions last long? I can see myself getting really
hormonal as well when baby is born

I think this is absolutely normal- I remember lying awake at night wracked by guilt at what I was doing, worrying about breaking up our lovely relationship by introducing a new baby. In reality it wasn't anything like that- having a sister has been a great joy for DS and they are close even now nearly two decades later. It's natural that things change over time, even without a new baby- that very intense first phase of motherhood changes into something different (but just as lovely) as your toddler becomes more outward looking. You will be fine.

@Ph3 glad I’m not alone in this though, I was starting to think I had something wrong with me. Aw I love that, I hope my boy never grows out of cuddles!

Well, you had another baby because you wanted to, not to make your existing child's life better. Own your decision, and do your best to navigate the change for him.

@Birdist thank you for this, literally how I am feeling and been feeling so guilty for both my son and then for my unborn baby that I am feeling this way 🥺 so many emotions!

It’s normal in that I see ppl say it a lot. It’s not how I feel though, my second due next week and I can’t wait to see my two interact and grow up together.

So understandable and I felt exactly the same when pg with DS2. Someone told me ‘your love doesn’t half, it doubles’. It’s so true