Overdue and fed up

[MrsTS]

I know a due date is just an estimate but I am 40 +3 and fed up. I think the added stress of people texting me (with good intention) asking if I’m okay when they know my due date was last week is really upsetting me. I’m going to ask my DH to speak to his family about it but I’ve tried to tell them it could be another 2 weeks! I’m just very frustrated at this point.

Failed sweep (closed cervix) at 40 weeks and going to see the midwife again today but haven’t made my mind up if I’ll accept a sweep again or not. Also baby’s measuring 90th percentile and I’m a FTM so I’ve had comments from midwife/colleagues ‘oh it’s a huge baby’ which also doesn’t help.

When did you go into labour - I’m fed up of seeing posts about people labouring at 38 weeks and want some positive overdue stories! Sorry for the moan, just feeling hormonal and sad for myself and I want my baby here (feel like I’m wasting maternity leave)

Our doula suggested setting my WhatsApp status to 'I'm still pregnant' to at least keep the relatives quiet. Not much else to suggest though, apart from maybe go for a massage or something else to relax and distract you!

I went into labour spontaneously at 40 +12 with my first and had a really positive birth. It was difficult being asked constantly how I was feeling etc for those almost 2 weeks so I really feel for you.

I'm now 40 weeks today with no signs of impending labour and this time didn't give anybody a date so a bit of pressure is off! Realise that doesn't help you now though.

Last time I actually accepted an induction date for 14 days over despite having no medical reason for induction, and found that took a lot of the stress of being increasingly pressured to come in for an induction earlier. I really think that contributed me relaxing enough to actually go into labour spontaneously! I could then fend off well-meaning family and friends with a sort of date which helped too. I still don't know if I would have attended the induction (I was being monitored regularly).

I went off work at 36 weeks with my first as still ill with HG so my maternity leave did drag somewhat! It is really hard and all I can suggest is taking one day at a time and taking any opportunity to make time for yourself, getting a massage, going for a long walk, just watching a movie etc. Best of luck

Oh bless you OP.

I'm 2 weeks behind you and already totally fed up so can only imagine how you're feeling.

Hope your baby is here soon

Sympathies OP, my FIL text me for updates every day from my due date!
Some hope for you though, I saw my midwife on my due date with my first and she didn’t even attempt a sweep because she said my cervix was nowhere near ready and said she would see me again in a week and try again. But I went into labour spontaneously at 40+5. With my second I went into labour the day after my due date.

Also I know it’s frustrating but do try and enjoy these final days of peace, and rest as much as you can! Do something nice like going for a massage or a meal out in a non child friendly restaurant

Thanks everyone! I’ve spoken to my SILs about it today as they were checking in so hoping they pass the message on to rest of DHs family.

Midwife checked me again today and whilst she couldn’t sweep there’s been changes which is really positive so feeling far less deflated than I was this morning! Baby will come when they do and it can be any time between now and next Friday (likely induction)

Love this - if only some of the family members were techy enough to notice WhatsApp status! Xx

Thank you xx
Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy, hope baby comes soon!

And you xx